Personality disorders - borderline, narcissistic and schizoid - have become the classic psychological disorders of our age. Outwardly successful, charming and powerful, personality-disordered individuals have long confounded their colleagues, family, lovers and employees - as well as mental health professionals. The author helps the reader understand them. After describing Personality disorders - borderline, narcissistic and schizoid - have become the classic psychological disorders of our age. Outwardly successful, charming and powerful, personality-disordered individuals have long confounded their colleagues, family, lovers and employees - as well as mental health professionals. The author helps the reader understand them. After describing how the healthy real self develops and functions, he explains what can go wrong. Drawing on case histories, he shows how the false self behaves in relationships and on the job, and then delineates appropriate treatments, offering real hope for cure.
The Search For The Real Self: Unmasking The Personality Disorders Of Our Age
Personality disorders - borderline, narcissistic and schizoid - have become the classic psychological disorders of our age. Outwardly successful, charming and powerful, personality-disordered individuals have long confounded their colleagues, family, lovers and employees - as well as mental health professionals. The author helps the reader understand them. After describing Personality disorders - borderline, narcissistic and schizoid - have become the classic psychological disorders of our age. Outwardly successful, charming and powerful, personality-disordered individuals have long confounded their colleagues, family, lovers and employees - as well as mental health professionals. The author helps the reader understand them. After describing how the healthy real self develops and functions, he explains what can go wrong. Drawing on case histories, he shows how the false self behaves in relationships and on the job, and then delineates appropriate treatments, offering real hope for cure.
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Ezri K –
Not so much a self help as it is a clinical psychology book primarily focus on abandonment depression. Even then, is one that I would recommend to many. Starts off with how the developement of a child in the first few years can effect them as they get older. The importance of particular behaviors and games that youngster play and how the parent(s) respond to them. The later chapters go into the variations of how the impairment of one's developement can effect them in various aspect of their life Not so much a self help as it is a clinical psychology book primarily focus on abandonment depression. Even then, is one that I would recommend to many. Starts off with how the developement of a child in the first few years can effect them as they get older. The importance of particular behaviors and games that youngster play and how the parent(s) respond to them. The later chapters go into the variations of how the impairment of one's developement can effect them in various aspect of their life and the defences that are created to deal with it. Of coarse it also talks about how to treat this individuals to help them develope theirselves and find confidence within. He mainly consitrates on the borderline and narcissist, but also touches on the sciziod.
Amber –
I would recommend this book for anyone interested in human nature or psychology. It describes where borderline and narcissistic personality disorders come from and the kinds of behaviors they lead to in adults. It is written more for therapists than those seeking self-help, but the writing was clear and made sense to me as a layman. A lot of the ideas are applicable to all people, not just those with personality disorders, so I think just about anyone would find it fascinating.
Dr. Stanley –
An important book which explains the early childhood antecedents of the borderline (deficient) personality elements which so many suffer from and which inhibit their work and love lives. But these borderline elements (weakness of basic psychological abilities), which are fairly common among psychotherapy patients, differ from a borderline personality disorder which is far more severe and less frequent. I praised this book in the introduction to the 2nd edition of one of my books, Troubled Childr An important book which explains the early childhood antecedents of the borderline (deficient) personality elements which so many suffer from and which inhibit their work and love lives. But these borderline elements (weakness of basic psychological abilities), which are fairly common among psychotherapy patients, differ from a borderline personality disorder which is far more severe and less frequent. I praised this book in the introduction to the 2nd edition of one of my books, Troubled Children/Troubled Parents. The author's death was a great loss.
Amina –
I'm so happy over having read this book and the lessons I could derive from it.This book took me to a deeper understanding of the "self" I never had. It was detailed, nuanced, includes complexities and well written. I particularly enjoyed the chapter where the author was describing the formation of the "self" in the infant and his response to his mother during the early years. I enjoyed the parallels he gave the stories such as Cinderella - shows you how the archetype of borderline is depicted in I'm so happy over having read this book and the lessons I could derive from it.This book took me to a deeper understanding of the "self" I never had. It was detailed, nuanced, includes complexities and well written. I particularly enjoyed the chapter where the author was describing the formation of the "self" in the infant and his response to his mother during the early years. I enjoyed the parallels he gave the stories such as Cinderella - shows you how the archetype of borderline is depicted in stories. It was like reading myself in the book and I understood myself better. Some parts stirred some emotions in me and it definitely felt difficult reading it. As for criticism -some parts were exaggerated. -Repetitive too. I would like to see some of quite borderline , "the acting in " one which there are rare resources on. A section on treatment would have made the book complete The author is clearly impacted by Freudian psychology , some parts were distasteful. I too didn't like how he referred to his Female patients as "attractive". I was also hoping to see more om self-abandonment . And in reality people usually come with a number of intertwined problems. While his research is on the self, it would be a value added to have it in the context of other mental illnesses or personality as well, to see how the different mental illnesses interact.
Gwendolyn Caithness Cameron –
Jim Masterson wrote this with such Compassion tgat it's hard to engage in Shaming or ostracizing, as a result. Possibly boring to those seeking a drier, more clinical time, it's detailed sufficiently engage a layperson reading it. Jim Masterson wrote this with such Compassion tgat it's hard to engage in Shaming or ostracizing, as a result. Possibly boring to those seeking a drier, more clinical time, it's detailed sufficiently engage a layperson reading it.
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Older theory of BPD based on Margaret Mahler’s theory of infant development
Jodie Gale –
One of the best books out there on the search for the authentic self. A must read for all therapists.
Bill Taylor –
On the face of it, this book looks a bit like a self help book, but is actually much deeper than that. I would say it was primarily aimed at psychology health professionals as it goes on the describe therapies to use for disorder treatments. Nevertheless, I did read the first few chapters and found them hard going but informative. I could really do with something aimed more at the man in the street.
Jennifer –
Very easy read. I love how it's written and his presentation of the pre-egoic personality disorders. He includes many real life examples of people with Narcissistic, Borderline, and Schizoid Personality Disorders. My only wish is that he continued on in describing OCPD, HPD and so on in the same exact way. Very easy read. I love how it's written and his presentation of the pre-egoic personality disorders. He includes many real life examples of people with Narcissistic, Borderline, and Schizoid Personality Disorders. My only wish is that he continued on in describing OCPD, HPD and so on in the same exact way.
Kevin –
This book changed my life when I was 12 or 13. I read it again every year or so, to slightly less effect. Still: excellent.
Leena –
Great professional resource as a deeper discussion about personality disorders and effective treatments.
Emily –
A good, basic intro to.
Sarah –
I read this based on Lynne's recommendation, and found it very worthwhile. Thanks, Lynne! I read this based on Lynne's recommendation, and found it very worthwhile. Thanks, Lynne!
Randy Elrod –
Excellent book, especially the last chapter about the role of creativity in finding your true self. Contains eye-opening profiles of artists: Sartre, Tom Wolfe and Munch.
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