I'm not encouraging any woman to pursue a married man or be with a married man. But if you're in this current situation as you are reading this, I suggest you know your place and don't over step your boundaries. If he gets caught and the wife tries to get answers from you ignore her, it's for the best. Let her get answers from her husband. I suggest you not make contact wi I'm not encouraging any woman to pursue a married man or be with a married man. But if you're in this current situation as you are reading this, I suggest you know your place and don't over step your boundaries. If he gets caught and the wife tries to get answers from you ignore her, it's for the best. Let her get answers from her husband. I suggest you not make contact with him what so ever. He'll reach out to you when the time is right. It's most likely going to be over between you two. If you play your cards right you might be able to be friends.