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Kakak, stop main internetnya! Kalau kamu kelamaan online kapan kamu mandi, makan, ngerjain PR, beresin buku, dan tidur? Jangan salahin Mama kalau besok pagi kamu kesiangan masuk sekolah. Kamu bukan anak kecil lagi. Jangan Mama melulu yang ngingetin semua tugas kamu. Apakah Anda merasa semakin cerewet ketika menghadapi anak-anak yang kini beranjak remaja? Anda masih saja ber Kakak, stop main internetnya! Kalau kamu kelamaan online kapan kamu mandi, makan, ngerjain PR, beresin buku, dan tidur? Jangan salahin Mama kalau besok pagi kamu kesiangan masuk sekolah. Kamu bukan anak kecil lagi. Jangan Mama melulu yang ngingetin semua tugas kamu. Apakah Anda merasa semakin cerewet ketika menghadapi anak-anak yang kini beranjak remaja? Anda masih saja berteriak karena banyak tugas yang belum mereka kerjakan Atau mereka lebih mendengarkan perkataan teman-teman daripada orangtua mereka sendiri? Tentu tidak nyaman berada dalam hubungan anak-orangtua yang kurang harmonis, iya kan? Anak adalah individu dengan pikirannya sendiri. Mereka bukan tanah liat yang bisa kita bentuk seperti yang kita inginkan. Seiring usia, karakter mereka juga berkembang. Kadang-kadang, permintaan paling sederhana dan masuk akal sekalipun bisa memicu perdebatan singkat atau pertengkaran panjang antara orangtua dan anak remajanya. Adele Faber dan Elaine Mazlish adalab ahli komunikasi antara orang dewasa dan anak-anak yang terkenal secara internasional. Metode komunikasi yang mereka anjurkan telah membantu jutaan keluarga dalam menciptakan hubungan yang lebih baik. Dalam setiap halaman buku ini, Anda akan menemukan cara-cara inovatif, simpel. dan logis dari kedua pakar untuk: - Mendengarkan dan merespons masalah anak remaja Anda. - Mengekspresikan rasa jengkel atau marah tanpa menyakiti. - Mengambil tindakan tanpa menghukum. - Mendorong anak remaja Anda untuk bertanggung jawab. - Orangtua dan remaja menyelesaikan masalah bersama-sama. - Bagaimana berbicara tentang seks dan narkoba tanpa menceramahi. Bacalah buku ini. Temukan solusi praktis tentang cara berkomunikasi dua arah yang bisa Anda terapkan bersama anak remaja Anda. Dan bersiaplah untuk menjalani hubungan yang penuh kasih sayang.


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Kakak, stop main internetnya! Kalau kamu kelamaan online kapan kamu mandi, makan, ngerjain PR, beresin buku, dan tidur? Jangan salahin Mama kalau besok pagi kamu kesiangan masuk sekolah. Kamu bukan anak kecil lagi. Jangan Mama melulu yang ngingetin semua tugas kamu. Apakah Anda merasa semakin cerewet ketika menghadapi anak-anak yang kini beranjak remaja? Anda masih saja ber Kakak, stop main internetnya! Kalau kamu kelamaan online kapan kamu mandi, makan, ngerjain PR, beresin buku, dan tidur? Jangan salahin Mama kalau besok pagi kamu kesiangan masuk sekolah. Kamu bukan anak kecil lagi. Jangan Mama melulu yang ngingetin semua tugas kamu. Apakah Anda merasa semakin cerewet ketika menghadapi anak-anak yang kini beranjak remaja? Anda masih saja berteriak karena banyak tugas yang belum mereka kerjakan Atau mereka lebih mendengarkan perkataan teman-teman daripada orangtua mereka sendiri? Tentu tidak nyaman berada dalam hubungan anak-orangtua yang kurang harmonis, iya kan? Anak adalah individu dengan pikirannya sendiri. Mereka bukan tanah liat yang bisa kita bentuk seperti yang kita inginkan. Seiring usia, karakter mereka juga berkembang. Kadang-kadang, permintaan paling sederhana dan masuk akal sekalipun bisa memicu perdebatan singkat atau pertengkaran panjang antara orangtua dan anak remajanya. Adele Faber dan Elaine Mazlish adalab ahli komunikasi antara orang dewasa dan anak-anak yang terkenal secara internasional. Metode komunikasi yang mereka anjurkan telah membantu jutaan keluarga dalam menciptakan hubungan yang lebih baik. Dalam setiap halaman buku ini, Anda akan menemukan cara-cara inovatif, simpel. dan logis dari kedua pakar untuk: - Mendengarkan dan merespons masalah anak remaja Anda. - Mengekspresikan rasa jengkel atau marah tanpa menyakiti. - Mengambil tindakan tanpa menghukum. - Mendorong anak remaja Anda untuk bertanggung jawab. - Orangtua dan remaja menyelesaikan masalah bersama-sama. - Bagaimana berbicara tentang seks dan narkoba tanpa menceramahi. Bacalah buku ini. Temukan solusi praktis tentang cara berkomunikasi dua arah yang bisa Anda terapkan bersama anak remaja Anda. Dan bersiaplah untuk menjalani hubungan yang penuh kasih sayang.

30 review for Berbicara Agar Remaja Mau Mendengar & Mendengar Agar Remaja Mau Bicara

  1. 4 out of 5

    Nat

    I wholeheartedly stand behind the belief that through our interactions with children we can learn how to behave respectfully to our surroundings; patience, kindness, and acceptance should be shown to all. So, picking up this book at the library (where I coincidentally discovered the shelf full of psychology reads I'm about to devour!!) felt like the natural next step in learning more about our methods of communication. Also, I have a nine-year-old sister at home who I want to feel like she's bein I wholeheartedly stand behind the belief that through our interactions with children we can learn how to behave respectfully to our surroundings; patience, kindness, and acceptance should be shown to all. So, picking up this book at the library (where I coincidentally discovered the shelf full of psychology reads I'm about to devour!!) felt like the natural next step in learning more about our methods of communication. Also, I have a nine-year-old sister at home who I want to feel like she's being listened to as an equal, which is where this book came in handy. How can I express my honest feelings in a way that will make it possible for the other person to hear me and even consider what I have to say? I was beyond keen on making sure I'd implement the many useful pieces of advice offered in this quick read: The emphasis put on simply listening and making sure they know you're on their side, the importance of acknowledging the kid's emotions and not brushing them off, accusing vs. describing feelings, giving tips on problem-solving, being conscious in your word choice because truth without morality is not truth. Like this brilliant quote I read from Haim Ginott: "Truth for its own sake can be a deadly weapon in family relations. Truth without compassion can destroy love. Some parents try too hard to prove exactly how, where and why they have been right. This approach will bring bitterness and disappointment. When attitudes are hostile, facts are unconvincing.” These instances helped me understand the best: • Why our "natural" response tends to minimize their emotions: “I also think it’s natural,” I said, “for parents to push away painful or upsetting feelings. It’s hard for us to listen to our teenagers express their confusion or resentment or disappointment or discouragement. We can’t bear to see them unhappy. So it’s with the best of intentions that we dismiss their feelings and impose our adult logic. We want to show them the ‘right’ way to feel.” The ultimate goal of a parent is to reach the stage where their kid will have the confidence to listen to themselves and make responsible choices on their own. “That’s the big challenge,” I said. “To shift our thinking from ‘how do I fix things?’ to ‘how do I enable my kids to fix things for themselves?’ ” • On the negative connotations of punishment; opting to use alternatives such as #1 State your feelings. #2 State your expectations. #3 Show how to make amends. #4 Offer a choice. #5 Take action.” “When you punish a kid, you close the door on him. He’s got no place to go. It’s a done deal. But when you take action, the kid might not like the action, but the door is still open. He still has a chance. He can face up to what he did and try to fix it. He can turn a ‘wrong’ into a ‘right.’ ” Also: the four-panel comics really brought the ideas to life: Instead of Angry Reprimands … When Praising Kids Instead of Evaluating … In short: • “Feelings matter. Not just your own, but those of people with whom you disagree. • Civility matters. Anger can be expressed without insult. • Words matter. What you choose to say can cause resentment or generate goodwill. • Punishment has no place in a caring relationship. We’re all people in process—capable of making mistakes and capable of facing our mistakes and making amends. • Our differences needn’t defeat us. Problems that seem insoluble can yield to respectful listening, creativity, and persistence. • We all need to feel valued. Not only for who we are now, but for who we can become.” Note: I’m an Amazon Affiliate. If you’re interested in buying How to Talk So Teens Will Listen & Listen So Teens Will Talk, just click on the image below to go through my link. I’ll make a small commission!  Support creators you love. Buy a Coffee for nat (bookspoils) with Ko-fi.com/bookspoils This review and more can be found on my blog.

  2. 5 out of 5

    Georgina Allen

    I wasn't quite sure what to rate this one. I think if I could give half stars it would be a 3.5. It's well written, great cartoons and a very helpful way to look at relationships in your life and how to communicate better. However, I felt the content was very sparse compared to the previous books (How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Sibling Rivalry) and didn't really add a lot - just demonstrated how the same techniques could be altered slightly to improve relationships with your teens. So while I I wasn't quite sure what to rate this one. I think if I could give half stars it would be a 3.5. It's well written, great cartoons and a very helpful way to look at relationships in your life and how to communicate better. However, I felt the content was very sparse compared to the previous books (How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Sibling Rivalry) and didn't really add a lot - just demonstrated how the same techniques could be altered slightly to improve relationships with your teens. So while I would recommend this to anyone who had teenagers and hadn't read the previous books, I don't think it has the same impact for those who have already bought the previous books. I'm glad I read it though, it's helped refresh my memory and my resolve to do better when talking with my children.

  3. 4 out of 5

    Bianca

    Short audiobook. Good advice, which is all about communication or how we communicate. The advice is useful for all situations, really. I hope I remember and put into practice some of the strategies and ways of communicating. We shall see ... old habits, ingrained behaviours and ways of communicating die hard.

  4. 5 out of 5

    Rebecca

    Teens are in that beautifully awkward growing period... not yet adults and mostly done with being little kids. This book is a really helpful reminder of 1) how they're thinking about life and 2) how to respond and listen well to encourage communication. It's immensely practical. Teens are in that beautifully awkward growing period... not yet adults and mostly done with being little kids. This book is a really helpful reminder of 1) how they're thinking about life and 2) how to respond and listen well to encourage communication. It's immensely practical.

  5. 5 out of 5

    Summer

    This book is so cheesy. I feel a little dumber after having listened to it. The cheesiness of the dialogue is amplified by the cheesy way the Ms. Faber reads it. Picture an old TV show from the 50s where a boy in a ballcap says "Gee pop! That's swell!" That's the way the she reads this stuff. And the actual written dialog isn't much better. According to the info, both writers are reading this audiobook. Their voices must be freakin' identical because I can't tell that there are 2 readers. I pull This book is so cheesy. I feel a little dumber after having listened to it. The cheesiness of the dialogue is amplified by the cheesy way the Ms. Faber reads it. Picture an old TV show from the 50s where a boy in a ballcap says "Gee pop! That's swell!" That's the way the she reads this stuff. And the actual written dialog isn't much better. According to the info, both writers are reading this audiobook. Their voices must be freakin' identical because I can't tell that there are 2 readers. I pulled up a GIS and they look like twins so I guess their voices can be the same too. Ok, so if you really needed a book to tell you not to scream at your kid or call them names or whatever, this is your jam. The authors' values are super hippy dippy. I think I'm pretty liberal, but I can't get down with a 13 year old smoking pot. Some stuff deserves more than a chilled out "conversation". I agree that going overboard can drive kids further away, but one can set some freakin' standards. My mom loves this stuff and this is how I was raised so I can tell ya it's an ok method. It didn't kill me. It's probably as fine as anything else. But dagGONE is this stuff cheesy. Also, I always thought the distinction between "punishment" and "consequences" was BS and I haven't changed my mind. Six of one, half dozen of another.

  6. 5 out of 5

    Jenn

    This book offers solid but general tactics for fostering positive communication with your kids. It does not, however, go far enough in terms of giving advice for dealing with teenagers. The scenarios play out too optimistically, with teens relenting quickly. The authors virtually skip common challenges like what to do when your teen is being irrational or continues to push back or outright defies you. And, there is no mention of what to do about the "communication" trick most teens have mastered This book offers solid but general tactics for fostering positive communication with your kids. It does not, however, go far enough in terms of giving advice for dealing with teenagers. The scenarios play out too optimistically, with teens relenting quickly. The authors virtually skip common challenges like what to do when your teen is being irrational or continues to push back or outright defies you. And, there is no mention of what to do about the "communication" trick most teens have mastered: lying. I am a big fan of the original "How to Talk." I was disappointed with this follow-up as it's merely a rehash of the original with little else to offer.

  7. 5 out of 5

    Gary

    Useful Material The techniques of mindful listening, thinking, and speaking that are discussed in this text seem really useful in the everyday world.

  8. 4 out of 5

    Charlotte Burt

    Fairly patronising at times, but it was a bit of a refresher on how to communicate with your kids in a way that promotes acceptance and openness. I read the kids version of this book years ago, and it has been adapted for teens but there was a lot of overlap as you would expect.

  9. 4 out of 5

    Jazz

    I really liked this book. I learned so much things in it. As a teen I realize that there is so much things going on in the world now that out parents didn't encounter at our age but they are trying their best to understand us. Reading this also helped me think about what I might do instead of just yelling when my mom and I get into a heated argument. I truly recommend this book to those adults needing help connect to their teenager or teens that want to change their relationship with their paren I really liked this book. I learned so much things in it. As a teen I realize that there is so much things going on in the world now that out parents didn't encounter at our age but they are trying their best to understand us. Reading this also helped me think about what I might do instead of just yelling when my mom and I get into a heated argument. I truly recommend this book to those adults needing help connect to their teenager or teens that want to change their relationship with their parents.

  10. 4 out of 5

    Jacob

    This book is why I need to write reviews a lot sooner after I read the book. I wasn't expecting much insight here that I haven't seen before, but... I got it! Not only are there several good pieces of advice in here, but the advice is organized in a way where it's easy to digest. The chapters are short, and each one is focused on one technique. The authors summarize the key points at the end of each chapter. There are conversational examples to demonstrate each technique, and often example stori This book is why I need to write reviews a lot sooner after I read the book. I wasn't expecting much insight here that I haven't seen before, but... I got it! Not only are there several good pieces of advice in here, but the advice is organized in a way where it's easy to digest. The chapters are short, and each one is focused on one technique. The authors summarize the key points at the end of each chapter. There are conversational examples to demonstrate each technique, and often example stories about how each one works... or doesn't. There's even some discussion about how he techniques don't work, and what to do when they don't. As an engineer, I am often looking for authors to go that extra mile and I rarely see it. I would also say the techniques are easy to remember, but... clearly they are not since I don't remember any specific technique seven months later! I think I have incorporated one or two of them in talking with my own teens, but I don't remember exactly what. THIS is why I need to write the review a lot sooner. I meant to scan through the book, take notes, and list the techniques here. I also meant to keep that list of notes and review it every few months myself to refresh my memory. Unfortunately, I haven't done that yet, so now I can't remember :/ In writing this review, I was thinking about how I will need to read it again to take those notes. That's not such a bad thing, except I wasn't looking forward to checking it out from the library in the time of COVID-19. Then I realized I'd tagged this book "ebook", which usually means I bought it in Kindle format. I checked for it on my Kindle, and lo and behold, I have it! Shouldn't be hard to re-read, then. This time I *will* take notes! I might actually bump it up to 5 stars when I do. That's usually one of the criteria for my giving a 5-star rating.

  11. 5 out of 5

    Madhuri Kudva

    I’m a big fan of this writer duo and am particularly grateful for the wisdom gained from all their books I’ve read so far... First was How to talk so kids will listen - applied again and again with my kids when they were 4-10...Also read Liberated Parents, Liberated Children at the same time. Then I just forgot about these skills for the last few years..When my kids became teenagers and everyone started talking about all the burdens and expectations that go with this supposedly difficult age, I w I’m a big fan of this writer duo and am particularly grateful for the wisdom gained from all their books I’ve read so far... First was How to talk so kids will listen - applied again and again with my kids when they were 4-10...Also read Liberated Parents, Liberated Children at the same time. Then I just forgot about these skills for the last few years..When my kids became teenagers and everyone started talking about all the burdens and expectations that go with this supposedly difficult age, I was reminded of this books existence by a friend. How timely it was. This book reminds me to be empathetic, not to jump to conclusions and to talk less and listen more. The format of the book makes it a very relatable read, and my favourite section is on the workshop where they meet the kids and the thoughts they share. This is a fundamental book in communication and there’s great value to be gained from it again and again.

  12. 5 out of 5

    April

    I have teenagers, well one teenager and one preteen, but I want very much to raise them well and as Hermione says, "When in doubt, go to the library." I haven't read parenting books since I had babies, but I thought I would see what I could learn about teens. When I came across How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish, I was plenty interested. Communicating with teens is no easy task so I was happy to read all about it. This book is very sho I have teenagers, well one teenager and one preteen, but I want very much to raise them well and as Hermione says, "When in doubt, go to the library." I haven't read parenting books since I had babies, but I thought I would see what I could learn about teens. When I came across How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish, I was plenty interested. Communicating with teens is no easy task so I was happy to read all about it. This book is very short and compact- it only took me a day to get through it- but it has some good advice: Listen to your children, respect them as individual people. The most valuable comment I read was that the way we deal with the little things (bad table manners, messy bedrooms) will lay the groundwork for all the big things (drugs, sex). This book doesn't imply that we let our children do whatever they'd like, but that as we are redirecting their behavior, it is possible to communicate in a way that is respectful rather than degrading. Unfortunately, this book felt outdated and a little cheesy. I don't feel like I learned much, but since it was a library loaner and didn't take up too much of my time, I'm not too worried about it.

  13. 5 out of 5

    Jak

    A relatively helpful self-help book designed to foster better communication between parents/adults and teenagers. I see that many of the other reviews saying it’s all fairly obvious stuff and what every parent should be doing naturally. However, the point they miss in their sanctimoniousness is that not every parent knows these tricks, it’s not like there were lessons about parenting at any point in school or during your first pregnancy. We know that people tend to follow the pattern of how they A relatively helpful self-help book designed to foster better communication between parents/adults and teenagers. I see that many of the other reviews saying it’s all fairly obvious stuff and what every parent should be doing naturally. However, the point they miss in their sanctimoniousness is that not every parent knows these tricks, it’s not like there were lessons about parenting at any point in school or during your first pregnancy. We know that people tend to follow the pattern of how they were raised and if you had parents that believed in harsh discipline, were emotionally distant or terrible communicators, how on earth would you know these simple ways to open dialogue with you kids? I agree with some of the comments that the cartoons/examples are cheesy (not the biggest sin in the world) and far too quick to work, but they are meant to be examples and not case studies. In the end it’s tough raising a kid and every little bit helps. If you know 9 out of 10 of these ways to communicate, fair enough, but it still gives you one good idea and improves you’re parenting skills. Personally, I found it very helpful.

  14. 4 out of 5

    Ciro

    Does it ever feel like you and your teen are speaking two completely different languages? This book will help you get your point across so that you can communicate your feelings, expectations, instructions, hopes, etc., effectively and with compassion. The authors don't pretend that they're revealing some secret esoteric psychological magic trick or tactic for parents to manipulate their teens with, rather they propose that we treat our teens with the dignity and respect they deserve, without sa Does it ever feel like you and your teen are speaking two completely different languages? This book will help you get your point across so that you can communicate your feelings, expectations, instructions, hopes, etc., effectively and with compassion. The authors don't pretend that they're revealing some secret esoteric psychological magic trick or tactic for parents to manipulate their teens with, rather they propose that we treat our teens with the dignity and respect they deserve, without sacrificing our experience and concerns as adults. The books is a quick and easy read (just under 200 pages). The drawings and illustrations make everything easy to understand, and the summaries toward the end of each chapter quickly sum up the principles addressed in the chapter, making it easy to go back and remember what you read. What's great is that these principles can be applied to communicating with most people, not just teenagers. I recommend this to anyone communicating with others one-on-one.

  15. 4 out of 5

    Chad Simons

    I need books like this from time to time. There is not groundbreaking information in these pages, just collected and organized tidbits of information presented in a way for all of us to understand. I’m not a great communicator and often my intentions are not delivered with the way of hope. Especially with the kids. So I was recommended this book by a dear friend who is wise beyond wise. I like the way the author sets up scenarios and role plays. Some of the topics bordered in cheesy, but I took I need books like this from time to time. There is not groundbreaking information in these pages, just collected and organized tidbits of information presented in a way for all of us to understand. I’m not a great communicator and often my intentions are not delivered with the way of hope. Especially with the kids. So I was recommended this book by a dear friend who is wise beyond wise. I like the way the author sets up scenarios and role plays. Some of the topics bordered in cheesy, but I took away a few things I’m anxious to try. Someone once said if we aren’t consistently looking for ways to improve then by default we are accepting the fact that we are content with getting worse.

  16. 4 out of 5

    Patricia Magdalena

    Rating 4.5/5.0 A great parenting and communication book! It actually laid out some common knowledge. However, it gave us examples on how to use it on parenting, especially for teenagers. It covered the simplest issues like doing homework until the most serious problem like sex and drugs. I'm not a parent, but I can definitely see myself using the lessons I got from this book. A must read for parents! The missing half of the rating is because I still got confused at some points, but overall, this i Rating 4.5/5.0 A great parenting and communication book! It actually laid out some common knowledge. However, it gave us examples on how to use it on parenting, especially for teenagers. It covered the simplest issues like doing homework until the most serious problem like sex and drugs. I'm not a parent, but I can definitely see myself using the lessons I got from this book. A must read for parents! The missing half of the rating is because I still got confused at some points, but overall, this is a great book.

  17. 5 out of 5

    Emma Rose Ribbons

    Very straightforward approach to communication with teenagers and really anyone. I'm neither a parent nor a teen but as a teacher, I feel like any approach can help. The author's advice is down-to-earth and easy to implement, with lots of examples. It's an excellent book and all that's left for me to do is adapt it for the classroom and see if it works. Very straightforward approach to communication with teenagers and really anyone. I'm neither a parent nor a teen but as a teacher, I feel like any approach can help. The author's advice is down-to-earth and easy to implement, with lots of examples. It's an excellent book and all that's left for me to do is adapt it for the classroom and see if it works.

  18. 5 out of 5

    Catalina

    Rather boring with a touch of stupid. This book hasn't enlightened me at all. I found that I was doing most of the things already, and probably any parent treating their child with respect does too. At least it's slightly better that the previous one, a touch more mature but still written as for the mentally impaired or something. Rather boring with a touch of stupid. This book hasn't enlightened me at all. I found that I was doing most of the things already, and probably any parent treating their child with respect does too. At least it's slightly better that the previous one, a touch more mature but still written as for the mentally impaired or something.

  19. 5 out of 5

    Sheila

    Much the same advice with original How to Talk book. Good reminders.

  20. 5 out of 5

    Laura

    Very useful. Listened to audio version.

  21. 5 out of 5

    Olga

    Some thoughts were helpful.

  22. 5 out of 5

    Heidi

    I've listened twice now. I like how it's in a workshop format & you get real life examples of patents dealing with some pretty tough things. I've listened twice now. I like how it's in a workshop format & you get real life examples of patents dealing with some pretty tough things.

  23. 5 out of 5

    Brenda Brown

    This was good and very useful. I read it on my Kindle and I feel like it's the kind of book I'd like to have in paperback so I could flip through quickly for a refresher. This was good and very useful. I read it on my Kindle and I feel like it's the kind of book I'd like to have in paperback so I could flip through quickly for a refresher.

  24. 5 out of 5

    Diana

    With the exception of the last chapter about sex/drugs (which contains some outdated opinions, IMO) this book is great for anyone looking to learn simple communication skills.

  25. 4 out of 5

    Mary

    Definitely some great take aways here, but also some moments of... hmmmm... not sure that’s how I would do that. I do think life is full of learning and choices and consequences. Not totally down with the no consequences thing, but I know it depends on the scenario. Good stuff to chew on here. Some of it I will likely hold on to and some of it I’ll spit out.

  26. 4 out of 5

    Gsmyles

    A bit redundant from the book about children-- but it is a very fast read and might be worth it to hear both sides: from a parent's perspective and a teen's, about feelings and actions and how they are interpreted. I found the problem solving list technique to be helpful as well as to be reassured that teens want to have a relationship with their parents but they are often misunderstood or parents don't stay calm long enough to listen. A bit redundant from the book about children-- but it is a very fast read and might be worth it to hear both sides: from a parent's perspective and a teen's, about feelings and actions and how they are interpreted. I found the problem solving list technique to be helpful as well as to be reassured that teens want to have a relationship with their parents but they are often misunderstood or parents don't stay calm long enough to listen.

  27. 4 out of 5

    Stephanie

    Listened to this on audiobook. It was very helpful with great strategies for helping you and your teen communicate.

  28. 4 out of 5

    Deb

    At a cardiologist visit this past summer after my son had a health scare because of some poor choices he made, the doctor said very sincerely, "Being a teenage boy these days is really difficult." My son nodded in agreement. Then the doctor finished, "It's almost as difficult as being the parent of a teenage boy." Yeah, I think the doctor understood us both. This book was recommended to me by a neighbor who has really easy-seeming teenagers with relatively small-seeming problems. The teens are bo At a cardiologist visit this past summer after my son had a health scare because of some poor choices he made, the doctor said very sincerely, "Being a teenage boy these days is really difficult." My son nodded in agreement. Then the doctor finished, "It's almost as difficult as being the parent of a teenage boy." Yeah, I think the doctor understood us both. This book was recommended to me by a neighbor who has really easy-seeming teenagers with relatively small-seeming problems. The teens are both active in our church and I'm sure that's protected them. So I was surprised that the content of this book applies so well to me with our teenage son who has had all kinds of "typical teen" problems. This book is definitely helpful for parents of typical teens. Our son is our only boy and the youngest. My four older daughters were much easier and pretty much stayed out of big trouble as teens. My son, not so much. Did this book help? Yes, but only because it is validating. Although I was hoping for new information that would really help me be a better parent, I was happily surprised to find out I've been doing the right things for a while now. Before I read this book, I braced myself, thinking it was going to make me feel guilty for not being more authoritative and involved. Nope. However, I did learn from it. The book helped me see I can more clearly state my expectations and feelings than I have been doing. I can help him understand my point of view and respect it a little more. It also gives names and examples to the methods I've done instinctively. Punishments don't work, especially with my son. I wish I'd learned this years ago when he first started having problems. I learned the hard way. I have always felt that children are people too, that they deserve to be listened to, understood, and respected. This book validates those feelings. The good news is, I think my son is beginning to learn from his mistakes. I think he's beginning to make better choices. I feel more hopeful. Would I recommend this book? Yes, but it might scare parents who have easy, religious kids.

  29. 5 out of 5

    Oraib Toukhly

    The book basically written from a workshop done on a certain group, I was looking forward to reading it to find out simple things about the changes that teenage go through and why they do certain things for example why they get irritated easily, why do we become strangers all of the sudden, why do they just want to say no for simply saying no.... I didn't get all these answers but I cannot deny that there are some useful techniques to identify certain behavior, not a lot for those who are lookin The book basically written from a workshop done on a certain group, I was looking forward to reading it to find out simple things about the changes that teenage go through and why they do certain things for example why they get irritated easily, why do we become strangers all of the sudden, why do they just want to say no for simply saying no.... I didn't get all these answers but I cannot deny that there are some useful techniques to identify certain behavior, not a lot for those who are looking to understand a teenager behavior change.

  30. 4 out of 5

    Fiona

    Sound advice on creative problem-solving and communication with teens. If you have read any of Faber and Mazlish's other works then this really builds upon the same foundations with an additional chapter on the pitfalls of talking about sex, alcohol and drugs with your teen. That does not mean this is not worth a read however, we could all use a reminder from time to time. As with their other books, I have taken a lot from this one that will no doubt stay with me for years to come as my children Sound advice on creative problem-solving and communication with teens. If you have read any of Faber and Mazlish's other works then this really builds upon the same foundations with an additional chapter on the pitfalls of talking about sex, alcohol and drugs with your teen. That does not mean this is not worth a read however, we could all use a reminder from time to time. As with their other books, I have taken a lot from this one that will no doubt stay with me for years to come as my children enter their teenage phase.

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