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Based on years of research and 121 real-life first dates, relationship expert Wendy Newman dishes up practical wisdom for navigating the online dating trenches with grace, efficiency, and a strong dose of humor. Wendy Newman has made every imaginable dating mistake so you don’t have to. Part guidebook, part personal tell-all, 121 First Dates chronicles Wendy’s funny, real-l Based on years of research and 121 real-life first dates, relationship expert Wendy Newman dishes up practical wisdom for navigating the online dating trenches with grace, efficiency, and a strong dose of humor. Wendy Newman has made every imaginable dating mistake so you don’t have to. Part guidebook, part personal tell-all, 121 First Dates chronicles Wendy’s funny, real-life misadventures and the practical wisdom she gained from them. Her dating tales will find you laughing, commiserating, and nodding your head as you learn how to stay in the dating game until you find the right man, just like Wendy did. This book busts myths, answers age-old questions, and examines pitfalls that make you want to give up on dating altogether. Just when you’re about to submit to a lifetime at home with a pint of Haagen-Dazs and sitcom reruns, 121 First Dates will inspire you to keep stepping out. Wendy discusses how to date successfully and efficiently, avoid the most common dating pitfalls, have an amazing first date with anyone, end uncomfortable situations with grace, and much, much more. She offers up realistic Dos and Don’ts as well as tips for making the most of any situation you find yourself in—whether you want to run or you think he’s the one. Brimming with humor, hope, and authenticity, 121 First Dates will give every woman the tools, confidence, and determination to be and stay real when dating. How else will you find the best match for you?


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Based on years of research and 121 real-life first dates, relationship expert Wendy Newman dishes up practical wisdom for navigating the online dating trenches with grace, efficiency, and a strong dose of humor. Wendy Newman has made every imaginable dating mistake so you don’t have to. Part guidebook, part personal tell-all, 121 First Dates chronicles Wendy’s funny, real-l Based on years of research and 121 real-life first dates, relationship expert Wendy Newman dishes up practical wisdom for navigating the online dating trenches with grace, efficiency, and a strong dose of humor. Wendy Newman has made every imaginable dating mistake so you don’t have to. Part guidebook, part personal tell-all, 121 First Dates chronicles Wendy’s funny, real-life misadventures and the practical wisdom she gained from them. Her dating tales will find you laughing, commiserating, and nodding your head as you learn how to stay in the dating game until you find the right man, just like Wendy did. This book busts myths, answers age-old questions, and examines pitfalls that make you want to give up on dating altogether. Just when you’re about to submit to a lifetime at home with a pint of Haagen-Dazs and sitcom reruns, 121 First Dates will inspire you to keep stepping out. Wendy discusses how to date successfully and efficiently, avoid the most common dating pitfalls, have an amazing first date with anyone, end uncomfortable situations with grace, and much, much more. She offers up realistic Dos and Don’ts as well as tips for making the most of any situation you find yourself in—whether you want to run or you think he’s the one. Brimming with humor, hope, and authenticity, 121 First Dates will give every woman the tools, confidence, and determination to be and stay real when dating. How else will you find the best match for you?

30 review for 121 First Dates: How to Succeed at Online Dating, Fall in Love, and Live Happily Ever After (Really!)

  1. 4 out of 5

    Dr. Tobias Christian Fischer

    A good book for women to understand how dating works. It’s helpful for finding the right place to meet, on which app you end up or the characteristic you want.

  2. 4 out of 5

    JoJo

    Wendy Newman's adventures in dating is a hilarious, yet insightful, journey to not only her husband, but to discovering more about herself. There are a lot of helpful hints followed by actual dating experiences that she has gone through. Some of these experiences were wonderful and resulted in relationships that went on for a few months. Others were comical failures that provide evidence for the advice and an opportunity to laugh along with her. 121 First Dates was an easy, light-hearted, yet th Wendy Newman's adventures in dating is a hilarious, yet insightful, journey to not only her husband, but to discovering more about herself. There are a lot of helpful hints followed by actual dating experiences that she has gone through. Some of these experiences were wonderful and resulted in relationships that went on for a few months. Others were comical failures that provide evidence for the advice and an opportunity to laugh along with her. 121 First Dates was an easy, light-hearted, yet thoughtful read, in my opinion. The only thing that I could say unfavorably about this book is that most of the suggestions seem to be directed towards an outgoing audience, rather than including the introverts. For those whom may be sensitive towards certain themes: there is foul language as well as sexual references. Please note: a copy of this book has been generously provided by the publisher via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.

  3. 5 out of 5

    Glen

    I won this book in a goodreads drawing. This is a book for women, on how to utilize the tools of the online dating sites to find lasting relationships. There are many humorous anecdotes of various disastrous dates. some of these are pretty funny. More useful for women than men, and probably more useful for someone in a metropolis than someone between the coasts.

  4. 5 out of 5

    Christine

    There are two sides to everything...especially dating. There can be the good dating where you meet a decent guy who just clicks with you. Where you can talk without any awkwardness or prolonged silences. He'll want to know you without talking too much of himself. A nice balance. Or it could be the bad experiences, where the guy never shows. Where a guy doesn't seem like the guy you thought he was. A disappointment. There will always be numerous dates but you'll eventually find the right one....r There are two sides to everything...especially dating. There can be the good dating where you meet a decent guy who just clicks with you. Where you can talk without any awkwardness or prolonged silences. He'll want to know you without talking too much of himself. A nice balance. Or it could be the bad experiences, where the guy never shows. Where a guy doesn't seem like the guy you thought he was. A disappointment. There will always be numerous dates but you'll eventually find the right one....right? The description of 121 First Dates grabbed my attention. When I just read, I thought it was a book about various people telling their first date stories. After I found out it was only one person's experiences, I was intrigued. First thought was: that is a lot of dates!! How can one go on that many different dates? Nowadays, online dating is very popular and an easier way to meet people. So, it was interesting to read Newman's stories! It wasn't just mainly about every first date she had. It was more about what she learned from her experiences and wanted to pass it on to those who need help in the dating world. The incorporation of her dating stories made it even more fun. She covers every dating topic...EVERYTHING. From what to expect with dating to what happens after the first date. Topics like the do's and don'ts of first dates, how to flirt, rookie mistakes. etc. Touching base on online dating: different sites, how to make yourself presentable, and how to move from online to the real world, Going into common questions people ask: when should you take a break, why isn't he calling, or what about sex? One of the most important topics she focuses on is yourself. How you should do things for you! Don't do things because you are expected to. It's more like you should love yourself before you put yourself out there kinda thing. You should put some time aside to take care of yourself. Especially if things don't go well for you. If you're having bad dating experiences or haven't even dated, I think this book will give you great insight. Since Wendy Newman is a dating guru, I'm sure you might learn a couple new things!

  5. 4 out of 5

    Misti

    A how-to guide to dating, specifically online dating. The author found her current partner after 121 first dates, mostly arranged through online platforms. She talks about mistakes and lessons learned, giving advice for those entering (or re-entering) the dating pool. I'm ditching this book halfway through, because it's totally depressing without meaning to be. My takeaway from reading this is that I'm probably not going to have any success with online dating, because I just can't be the person t A how-to guide to dating, specifically online dating. The author found her current partner after 121 first dates, mostly arranged through online platforms. She talks about mistakes and lessons learned, giving advice for those entering (or re-entering) the dating pool. I'm ditching this book halfway through, because it's totally depressing without meaning to be. My takeaway from reading this is that I'm probably not going to have any success with online dating, because I just can't be the person that this author describes as the successful online dater. It brought all of my insecurities to the surface. My opinions and beliefs about love and romance are in opposition to hers in many ways. Plus, she describes dating in an urban area, and I don't think many of her strategies and advice would work for my location in a smaller town. If you're a city dweller who doesn't mind thinking of dating as a numbers game, this book might be a better fit for you.

  6. 4 out of 5

    Bonnie

    I really enjoyed this book. The author had funny dating anecdotes, good advice, and a consistent voice. The best thing about advice books is, if it doesn't apply to you, ignore it! There's a few things in here I'm going to ignore because it doesn't apply to me, but there are far more tips and hints inside to help navigate a world that is still really new to me. I recommend this one for people trying to get back out into the dating world, or who have never entered it and are intimidated. Use what I really enjoyed this book. The author had funny dating anecdotes, good advice, and a consistent voice. The best thing about advice books is, if it doesn't apply to you, ignore it! There's a few things in here I'm going to ignore because it doesn't apply to me, but there are far more tips and hints inside to help navigate a world that is still really new to me. I recommend this one for people trying to get back out into the dating world, or who have never entered it and are intimidated. Use what you can, discard what you can't, and if it helped, tell your friends about it!

  7. 5 out of 5

    Catherine Carrigan

    A description of the author's experience as she went through a series of dates. What's good about the book is that if you haven't found Mr. Right after your first 10 dates, take a number! The author helps us to have patience with ourselves and our process as we go through the challenges of dating. A description of the author's experience as she went through a series of dates. What's good about the book is that if you haven't found Mr. Right after your first 10 dates, take a number! The author helps us to have patience with ourselves and our process as we go through the challenges of dating.

  8. 4 out of 5

    Erin

    This book was recommended to me for the hilarious first dates, and it did not disappoint. There was a first date masturbator and a man looking for a live-in maid, to name two. Newman keeps it totally real throughout the book (she pushes masturbation in two different chapters!), and as a larger sized woman she is so much easier to listen to than a waif-like blonde saying how hard it is out there. I didn't expect to notice or even care very much about the dating parts, but Newman is so charming and This book was recommended to me for the hilarious first dates, and it did not disappoint. There was a first date masturbator and a man looking for a live-in maid, to name two. Newman keeps it totally real throughout the book (she pushes masturbation in two different chapters!), and as a larger sized woman she is so much easier to listen to than a waif-like blonde saying how hard it is out there. I didn't expect to notice or even care very much about the dating parts, but Newman is so charming and funny that I ended up reading those too. I loved her message and bombarded my girlfriend with quote after quote from Newman until she's practically read the whole book by proxy. I recommend this for ladies of dating age, whether you're in a relationship or not. I think it carries a lot of good advice about being real with yourself.

  9. 5 out of 5

    Silke

    ARC received from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review. I think I had expected this to be a little different from what it was. Wendy Newman is direct and clear in her advise and gives you some helpful guidelines on how to handle the online dating life. I think I had secretly been hoping for some more funny date stories that she's had. In this case most of her anecdotes served to nicely wrap up a story thread or chapter and served a functional purpose. The description of this book was initially ARC received from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review. I think I had expected this to be a little different from what it was. Wendy Newman is direct and clear in her advise and gives you some helpful guidelines on how to handle the online dating life. I think I had secretly been hoping for some more funny date stories that she's had. In this case most of her anecdotes served to nicely wrap up a story thread or chapter and served a functional purpose. The description of this book was initially what pulled me in to read it and I think I expected a 50/50 balance of advice and anecdotes but in reality it's more like 90/10. But I can definitely see it being a helpful guide to people and be the pick-me-up some people need after a long and fruitless search online.

  10. 4 out of 5

    Lemon_leaf

    The author listed out common feelings, mistakes and hard problems that normal women would encounter during their dating life. Her excellent story telling skills made you resonate with her. You read the book like a novel but after a story, you would probably say that "I was in that exactly same situation!" or "I wished I didn't do it either!". One of the biggest mistakes is that women do not say no even when they know they don't like the guy. They would spend hours, weeks or even months dragged b The author listed out common feelings, mistakes and hard problems that normal women would encounter during their dating life. Her excellent story telling skills made you resonate with her. You read the book like a novel but after a story, you would probably say that "I was in that exactly same situation!" or "I wished I didn't do it either!". One of the biggest mistakes is that women do not say no even when they know they don't like the guy. They would spend hours, weeks or even months dragged by the other one. Along with the stories, suggestions, warning, analysis and help was provided so that you know what to do in that situation. Very Helpful!

  11. 4 out of 5

    Coco

    Wow. I am using information I learned in my day to day life - not just dating. There's a lot of useful information on how to relate to and communicate with men as well as the fun anecdotes and personal stories to help relate to the struggle of dating. I've recommended this to so many people and actually bought a 2nd copy to loan to friends. My personal copy is signed and isn't allowed to leave my house! Wow. I am using information I learned in my day to day life - not just dating. There's a lot of useful information on how to relate to and communicate with men as well as the fun anecdotes and personal stories to help relate to the struggle of dating. I've recommended this to so many people and actually bought a 2nd copy to loan to friends. My personal copy is signed and isn't allowed to leave my house!

  12. 5 out of 5

    Frédéric Byé

    I read Wendy’s book and I interviewed her. Every woman who is on the dating scene should read that book! Especially in the crazy world of online dating, 121 First Dates is a guide from someone who has lived it and finally met the man she wanted! Wendy’s personality in the book is witty and funny. This is not only an informative and inspirational book, but it is also an entertaining one as well. And men, if you want to know more about women, this is the book. Kudos to Wendy!

  13. 4 out of 5

    Becca

    This book had me ready and excited to get out there and date again! But my excitement quickly turned to discouragement looking at the pool of available guys in my area. I think if I move to/visit a larger city, I'll really be able to use Wendy's tips more fully. The book did change my views on a few things, which I really appreciate! This book had me ready and excited to get out there and date again! But my excitement quickly turned to discouragement looking at the pool of available guys in my area. I think if I move to/visit a larger city, I'll really be able to use Wendy's tips more fully. The book did change my views on a few things, which I really appreciate!

  14. 4 out of 5

    Kristin

    As a single lady, this book made me feel better about some of the dates that I’ve been on. It’s nice to relate with someone and know that you aren’t the one that is going through this dating thing. Also made me feel better about Online dating. She has some good pointers. I’m gonna pass it around to my single friends to read next

  15. 5 out of 5

    Monical

    For some reason this book caught my eye-- even though I am happily married and have no interest in pursuing the topic. The book was funny, interesting and informative, and fairly light. Great personal stories and tips for those interested in online dating!

  16. 4 out of 5

    Maria

    Though her voice isn't really my style, I found her tips very useful, from the actual dating site navigation to practical dating advice. I especially liked her "exit" strategies for telling a date you're not a match. Good luck out there! Though her voice isn't really my style, I found her tips very useful, from the actual dating site navigation to practical dating advice. I especially liked her "exit" strategies for telling a date you're not a match. Good luck out there!

  17. 5 out of 5

    Kassi Gruenberg

    Absolutely loved this book! Honestly picked it up as a joke, but ended up thoroughly enjoying it.

  18. 5 out of 5

    Jennifer Bailey

    Quick, fun read. Helpful insight. Too bad I didn't read it a year ago. Ha! Great stories too. Quick, fun read. Helpful insight. Too bad I didn't read it a year ago. Ha! Great stories too.

  19. 4 out of 5

    Elzecatreads

    Part funny story, part dating advice, pretty cute and enjoyable read. Got a few reminders of "best practice" tips when online dating. Part funny story, part dating advice, pretty cute and enjoyable read. Got a few reminders of "best practice" tips when online dating.

  20. 5 out of 5

    Donna Hines

    I was looking forward to reading about online dating since I divorced 3 yrs earlier to a malignant abusive narcissistic spouse of a 11 yr marriage. I noticed right away that Wendy would say one thing but sadly not follow her own advice ( I guess that's why she's the author and I'm writing about her book in review) however, we can take away from her misfortunes. Oh and by way I'm glad she did find Dave in the end even if she had to go through 120 other men to get to the point of happiness. However I was looking forward to reading about online dating since I divorced 3 yrs earlier to a malignant abusive narcissistic spouse of a 11 yr marriage. I noticed right away that Wendy would say one thing but sadly not follow her own advice ( I guess that's why she's the author and I'm writing about her book in review) however, we can take away from her misfortunes. Oh and by way I'm glad she did find Dave in the end even if she had to go through 120 other men to get to the point of happiness. However, for me it just didn't sit well. Her suggestions about not dating newly divorced men but then dating separated me didn't jive. Her idea about FWB's is not my cup of tea ( no pun intended). I certainly wouldn't recommend dating an ex con even with second chances and would be extra cautious with children residing in the home ( as is my case). Now look, nobody's perfect. We all have our faults and we all have our own baggage ( ty jerry springer). However, in this day and age ladies need to be extra careful. I am old school with strict Catholic upbringing. I wasn't allowed to wear makeup, tight skirts or revealing tops, heck staying out late beyond midnight was a no - no. I grew up with 3 brothers and they monitored my dates like hawks. If they were lucky to get beyond the rotary dialed phone calls back than in the 90's ( dated at 18yo) than they had to make it to the main event my dad. Needless to say many men didn't make it to the main event. Now as for us women we need to raise our bar and not settle for less. I don't believe men want an easy target or someone who is willing to be what they want to be. We should all be ourselves. We shouldn't lose part of who we are to trying to aim to please others. We shouldn't dummy down but rather expect men to rise up to our standards. I made some mistakes ( ok a ton) when dating. I dating at 18, met and dated , and had about 4 significant longer relationships ( the last guy I married Dave) ironically same name as the author's husband. I was romantically involved with only 2 or those guys ( the latter I married). I know brownie points here ... Now with this said, I fell for the façade with the last one. Empty promises and broken dreams leads to nightmares. He sold himself and did it well. He had as Wendy notes the bullet point lists that I once had made before dating. He was smart, well educated, had a job, lived and worked away from home ( 5 states away) and he seemed to have friends, family, and good social life. He was financially well off ( or so I thought) and seemed to be the entire package. Well needless to say as hindset is 20-20 he was not who he sold himself to be. He was not a pillar of the community. He was not faithful or committed but a womanizer with constant wandering and flirting . Oh and infidelity is his middle name. He was not a hard worker but was hard working at other areas of life that involved winning the hearts of many. Let's just say he was a disaster. This is why Id like to note here that staying friends with an ex spouse such as a narcissist or personality trait disordered person is not recommended. No contact, strong boundaries, and direct comment by email or third party is a must. Luckily for wedding she didn't seem to encounter too many of these cons in her dating experience but they are out there. Now as for letting the guy lead. Heck I'm a strong woman. I love chivalry. I love a gentleman. I love a man who knows what he wants and can say more than 2 word come ons. A man who is strong has no problem letting a woman take the reigns. In fact I think men would prefer a more vocal woman than one who goes along to not upset the cart. As for women many of us have low self esteem and low confidence. If we are not Cindy Crawford we have a complex. ( not all but some). We often have had our hearts broken and the mind games that people play on us is just darn awful. We may feel we are to blame and it's this self shaming, blaming, and loathing that creates the problems we encounter today. I'd like to say to not only your readers here but to my own on my page The Lost Self Life After Narcissism that it's best to stay true to you. Uncover your true authentic self is my most common phrase used on my own self help page that'd I'd like to share here. Don't ever blame yourself or live in the past. Keep moving forward and don't repress those built up emotions that may have plagued you for years. Whether it was early child abuse, defective parents, toxic friends, terrible exes, whatever your past leave it in the past as it has nothing new to say. Now should women go on dates and wait for men to respond? Well depends but I'm not waiting around to be silenced. I'm one who believes in give and take. Not constant one sided relationships which seem to involve lots of sex, and immaturity, while tending to everyone else's needs but our own. Look ladies, men should want to give just as much as they take. It shouldn't be all on us to create the perfect life fit for a King. It's the 21st century and the stay at home mom who's ignored by the spouse while raising the kids is not ideal. I would know as I was left wo income , assets, savings, credit, or employment after I myself gave up career for child rearing ( which by way was mutually agreed and cost effective). So I say be who you want, go after the career, have the children, adopt if unable, date if you want, marry if you prefer. Just be happy. Wendy did have some good points: Check those dates backgrounds by using google pics. I'd go one step further and ask their name and check everything online using cell or name for further safety. I'd also say to be talkative and not live cocooned into thinking you can only meet someone when the stars align. Make yourself available and sign up for those events that interest you. Go to the gym and workout and stay active and healthy. I do all these things and more. I do have several online dating sites I prefer to use including Match, and OK Cupid ( because Wendy recommended it). I have met some nice guys and some really doozies. Some had fetishes, some hid their profiles immediately after the infamous wink or photo like. Some didn't care what they had acquired so long as it was alive and breathing. I'm sure their is a match out there for everyone and I for one don't need a man to fulfill me or complete me but it would be nice for one to add to me. I'm a whole person and expect to find a whole other person. I wouldn't recommend going to a man's house on a first date nor would I recommend being with a man who is into excessive hugging and kissing on a first date ( but lord they find me). I think we will all know when we meet the "one" if such a word exists. My favorite comment by Wendy involved the yoga pants gal. We've all been there haven't we? So go ahead and do your thing and be happy with who you are and what you possess and the right man will be more than happy to climb that mountain to reach the top. Don't wait for it, don't expect it, just be who you are meant to be. Fulfill your dreams and if it includes a significant other for you than fantastic. With all my love to all in the crazy dating world Donna

  21. 4 out of 5

    Vanessa Princessa

    I read this book thanks to Blinkist. The topics discussed within the book provided nothing I didn't already know. The premise was intriguing, but I'm not impressed. The key message in this book: For single women today, the dating scene is full of possibilities. Online dating has opened up an entirely new realm and anyone can put themselves out there. There’s a lot you can do to prepare for a first date, but if it doesn’t go as expected, just keep your head up and don’t blame yourself. Actionable ad I read this book thanks to Blinkist. The topics discussed within the book provided nothing I didn't already know. The premise was intriguing, but I'm not impressed. The key message in this book: For single women today, the dating scene is full of possibilities. Online dating has opened up an entirely new realm and anyone can put themselves out there. There’s a lot you can do to prepare for a first date, but if it doesn’t go as expected, just keep your head up and don’t blame yourself. Actionable advice Make your Facebook research analog to avoid hurt feelings. It’s tempting to check out a date’s Facebook profile. Giving in to this temptation, however, isn’t always such a great idea. Often, you’ll stumble upon photos of his exes or information you weren’t so keen to know. So, the next time you want to do a little Facebook stalking, just download and print out his profile. That way you can look at all the pictures you want, without the risk of unpleasant surprises.

  22. 5 out of 5

    Diana

    nonfiction is something that I struggle with if it does Not directly relate or appeal to me. I have branched out and I’m reading a variety of books including this one. I stopped reading when the book suggested that “when on a date be sure to talk about “his” strengths to boost “ his”confidence”.....really? Next.

  23. 5 out of 5

    Angelica Mercado

    Reading about someone else's journey through the dating world was fun, and although I thought I'd get tips from it...honestly, the best way to find out how dating works is to just go through it yourself. It was entertaining though :) Reading about someone else's journey through the dating world was fun, and although I thought I'd get tips from it...honestly, the best way to find out how dating works is to just go through it yourself. It was entertaining though :)

  24. 4 out of 5

    Ralph N

    Author is unhappy single. Author decides to fix that. Author prepares and then goes on over 100 dates before finding the one. It’s an acceptable read if it’s what you’re searching for, doesn’t take much brainpower to go through.

  25. 5 out of 5

    Beth

    Great advice, entertaining read.

  26. 5 out of 5

    Amber

    This was really funny. And it had an unexpected Charlie Jane Anders mention!

  27. 5 out of 5

    Summer Williams

    Good tips and entertaining.

  28. 5 out of 5

    Amanda

    Interesting premise but didn't feel like there was anything I hadn't heard before. Mostly gave me anxiety about having to do that again :( Interesting premise but didn't feel like there was anything I hadn't heard before. Mostly gave me anxiety about having to do that again :(

  29. 4 out of 5

    Lori

    This would be a 3.5. Of all the dating books I've read, this is one of the best. This would be a 3.5. Of all the dating books I've read, this is one of the best.

  30. 4 out of 5

    Mediaman

    Talk about misleading--this book is not at all what it pretends to be. It's mostly hack advice that is poorly organized, nothing you haven't read before, with a whopper of a conclusion that actually tells you to forget everything she says in the book! First, it's not actually about 121 first dates. She only goes into detail on a couple dozen dates, and those stories are only a couple paragraphs long. If you are expecting an interesting chronological memoir of her relationships it's not here. Ther Talk about misleading--this book is not at all what it pretends to be. It's mostly hack advice that is poorly organized, nothing you haven't read before, with a whopper of a conclusion that actually tells you to forget everything she says in the book! First, it's not actually about 121 first dates. She only goes into detail on a couple dozen dates, and those stories are only a couple paragraphs long. If you are expecting an interesting chronological memoir of her relationships it's not here. There's a lot of bland advice that anyone could have given about using the internet ("create a positive profile" and "be unique") and most of the book sounds rehashed from other sources. The dates, which should be the star of the book, are actually lost in the rest of her blathering. And the date stories that are included jump around in the timeline, so you have no sense that she is really learning anything as she goes out with way too many men. Second, she falls in love with pretty much everyone she meets. In story after story as she tells what happened after they stopped dating, she talks about how she remains friends with them and still is enthralled with them. She uses different wording, but it almost always ends up being that she has fallen for many guys that she can't ever have as life partners. Which shows she has some big problems and shouldn't be writing this book. Third, her topics are so poorly organized and she's so repetitive that after awhile you should just give up and jump to the stories at the end of the chapter. Then once you're there you'll discover that they often have nothing to do with the theme of the chapter. She doesn't write well. She does, however, like to allude to sex a lot without telling any specific stories. Boring. Then she make comments about lesbians (why?) and keeps using the word "tribe" to describe who you should date ("only date within your tribe") without explaining how that bigoted term makes sense here. She really is not qualified to write this book. She's a dating failure. She sucked at 120 of the 121 dates she went on. Which, by the way, she fails to seem to get--she blames the guys most of the time. She is very judgmental about men's clothing choices and even where their eyes goes, yet she is unable to do proper self-analysis to see that she is overweight and a bit crazy. She is a size 16, wears XL clothing, and claims that she is NOT "plus size" (she says it a couple times in the book to make sure you know that!) but claims to be just on the high end of the normal scale, yet it's obvious by the reaction she gets from guys first seeing her in person that she's not normal sized. She was married for ten years before starting this adventure, yet appears to have learned nothing about men from being married other than how to try to control them. She started working for a dating company where she did research on men, but she doesn't seem to have them figured out at all. She has a Mormon background and was so wild that she was finally excommunicated, but claims a form of spirituality that believes in "the goddess" without having any apparent moral code. Namely, she comes across as a slutty bitch who thinks she's better than men. Just being blunt here--she needs to hear it the way she dishes it out. The "twist" ending is that on the 121st first date she meets an OKCupid guy for a half hour, a man who claims to have not dated in 25 years (she dates all ages, then criticizes after meeting them for being too young or too old!). In this case they went on a second date and she claims they fell in love then. Except that they eventually figure out that he was outside the radius and settings she put on her online account, so they never should have met in the first place and she would have never normally chosen to date him based on his profile. The point: ignore everything she just told you about online dating, "throw away the rules," and let "fate" work its spell! You didn't need to buy this worthless book to learn that.

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