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     How many times have you heard yourself saying yes to the wrong things—overwhelming requests, bad relationships, time-consuming obligations? How often have you wished you could summon the power to turn them down? This lively, practical guide helps you take back that power—and shows that a well-placed “No” can not only save you time and trouble, it can save your life.         How many times have you heard yourself saying yes to the wrong things—overwhelming requests, bad relationships, time-consuming obligations? How often have you wished you could summon the power to turn them down? This lively, practical guide helps you take back that power—and shows that a well-placed “No” can not only save you time and trouble, it can save your life.      Drawing on their own stories as well as feedback from their readers and students, James Altucher and Claudia Azula Altucher clearly show that you have the right to say no: To anything that is hurting you. To standards that no longer serve you. To people who drain you of your creativity and expression. To beliefs that are not true to the real you. When you do, you’ll be freed to say a truly powerful “Yes” in your life—one that opens the door to opportunities, abundance, and love.


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     How many times have you heard yourself saying yes to the wrong things—overwhelming requests, bad relationships, time-consuming obligations? How often have you wished you could summon the power to turn them down? This lively, practical guide helps you take back that power—and shows that a well-placed “No” can not only save you time and trouble, it can save your life.         How many times have you heard yourself saying yes to the wrong things—overwhelming requests, bad relationships, time-consuming obligations? How often have you wished you could summon the power to turn them down? This lively, practical guide helps you take back that power—and shows that a well-placed “No” can not only save you time and trouble, it can save your life.      Drawing on their own stories as well as feedback from their readers and students, James Altucher and Claudia Azula Altucher clearly show that you have the right to say no: To anything that is hurting you. To standards that no longer serve you. To people who drain you of your creativity and expression. To beliefs that are not true to the real you. When you do, you’ll be freed to say a truly powerful “Yes” in your life—one that opens the door to opportunities, abundance, and love.

30 review for The Power of No: Because One Little Word Can Bring Health, Abundance, and Happiness

  1. 4 out of 5

    Doug Kerwin

    For me there was no huge alignment on the theme of the book as in saying no to things, but I came to really admire James as an author and a person. While there was little new material in this book for me, it is often useful to hear the same stuff again from a little different angle and James delivers an entertaining performance. I love his suggestion to read 500 books as a cornerstone to re-inventing yourself. I bet there's a fair amount of overlap between the books we've read. Another stand out w For me there was no huge alignment on the theme of the book as in saying no to things, but I came to really admire James as an author and a person. While there was little new material in this book for me, it is often useful to hear the same stuff again from a little different angle and James delivers an entertaining performance. I love his suggestion to read 500 books as a cornerstone to re-inventing yourself. I bet there's a fair amount of overlap between the books we've read. Another stand out was his suggestion to "flex your idea muscle" by writing down 10 business ideas a day. I decided to try incorporating this into my daily routine. "Let them finish their sentences" - James talks about the inverse of the "what would you do if today where your last day to live" scenario, meaning what would you do to others if it were their last day to live. One of the things he says to do is be patient with them and let them finish their sentences (even if you're light years ahead of them). This is something I've certainly struggled with, both in professional and personal circles. The thought of it being that person's last day to live; if you can do them no more good than to show them enough love and respect to let them finish their sentences. I made a commitment do re-double my efforts in this area.

  2. 5 out of 5

    eb

    INSANE, in an amusing and bizarre way! The husband gives us reheated Chopra and Tolle and presents exercises for the reader ("write down 10 new ideas a day. Sound too hard? Write down 20"). The wife chimes in with tales from the meditation cushion and anecdotes about jerky ex-boyfriends. You get the impression they're in their own little cult of two and are so happy about it. They might be right about everything, but I don't trust anything they say because of their general zaniness (not to menti INSANE, in an amusing and bizarre way! The husband gives us reheated Chopra and Tolle and presents exercises for the reader ("write down 10 new ideas a day. Sound too hard? Write down 20"). The wife chimes in with tales from the meditation cushion and anecdotes about jerky ex-boyfriends. You get the impression they're in their own little cult of two and are so happy about it. They might be right about everything, but I don't trust anything they say because of their general zaniness (not to mention the bottom-of-the-barrel typeface and layout). Pretty sure the whole package, from manuscript to galleys, took about three months to put together.

  3. 5 out of 5

    KatieDMD

    So this was an impulse buy because of an interview James Altucher did with Tim Ferriss on Ferriss' podcast. I admit it, I am a sucker for subtle marketing and commercialism. The interview was very interesting (check it out!) and Altucher came across as down to earth, realistic and pretty forward thinking. I was very surprised to see the opposite personality in his book, The Power of No. It is 240 pages of kind of common sense (exercise regularly, eat foods that nourish your body, get lots of sle So this was an impulse buy because of an interview James Altucher did with Tim Ferriss on Ferriss' podcast. I admit it, I am a sucker for subtle marketing and commercialism. The interview was very interesting (check it out!) and Altucher came across as down to earth, realistic and pretty forward thinking. I was very surprised to see the opposite personality in his book, The Power of No. It is 240 pages of kind of common sense (exercise regularly, eat foods that nourish your body, get lots of sleep, cut people who are cankers out of your life), wrapped up in hippy language and spiritualism, unrealistic demands on your time (oh, you don't have time for 1 hour of meditation? Go do TWO hours of meditation!) and untested exercises at the end of every chapter. I can honestly say that I completed the book because I was looking for some level or piece of revolutionary knowledge, or a realistic and interesting way of managing time/energy/relationships. I don't know, something like "clear out your email inbox to 0 every single day and check it only once per day so you can clear your mind and meditate." The most relevant and interesting part of the book was the lifestyle rule of not gossiping. While I continue that odious practice to this day, I now pause, stop to think about why I am doing it and to whose benefit it is, and do it less. That's a plus, I think.

  4. 4 out of 5

    Ross

    James wrote this book this his wife Claudia. There was much down-to-earth sage advice from James as usual - some of it better than others, but enough golden paragraphs here and there to make it all worth it. His wife, on the the other hand, is too abstract for my liking. I accept that it works for some people, but I'm mentally allergic to Deepak Chopra-style language and thought. I found myself painfully rushing through Claudia's parts of the book to get them over with. Towards the second half o James wrote this book this his wife Claudia. There was much down-to-earth sage advice from James as usual - some of it better than others, but enough golden paragraphs here and there to make it all worth it. His wife, on the the other hand, is too abstract for my liking. I accept that it works for some people, but I'm mentally allergic to Deepak Chopra-style language and thought. I found myself painfully rushing through Claudia's parts of the book to get them over with. Towards the second half of the book, even James started to get a touch metaphysical, which was a shame. Overall, his previous book (Choose Yourself), was much better in my opinion.

  5. 4 out of 5

    I'm Not

    "JAMES: Here’s a problem I have: I agree to things. Lots of things. Meet me for coffee? Okay. Be an advisor for my company—it will only take one hour a week? Okay. Speak at my conference? Okay. Babysit my kids? Never in a million years (okay, I don’t agree to absolutely everything)." This is coming from a man who's allegedly in touch with his higher inner power and creativity? Maybe you have enough time and creativity precisely because of this, Mr. Altucher, a not because of your other... skills "JAMES: Here’s a problem I have: I agree to things. Lots of things. Meet me for coffee? Okay. Be an advisor for my company—it will only take one hour a week? Okay. Speak at my conference? Okay. Babysit my kids? Never in a million years (okay, I don’t agree to absolutely everything)." This is coming from a man who's allegedly in touch with his higher inner power and creativity? Maybe you have enough time and creativity precisely because of this, Mr. Altucher, a not because of your other... skills and wisdom. Also, if it's humor, it's simply disgusting.

  6. 5 out of 5

    Luminița Gabura

    I only read the book because I didn't have anything else with me and I had to wait for about 3 hours in the airport. Maybe because I had big expectations about this book and because I have previously read a considerable number of motivational books and self development books, this one have not left me any new idea. A very pessimistic start and so is the end of the book. I wouldn't recommend it, it is a waste of time. I only read the book because I didn't have anything else with me and I had to wait for about 3 hours in the airport. Maybe because I had big expectations about this book and because I have previously read a considerable number of motivational books and self development books, this one have not left me any new idea. A very pessimistic start and so is the end of the book. I wouldn't recommend it, it is a waste of time.

  7. 5 out of 5

    Aizel (One Page at a Time) Macaldo

    No. A two-letter word that can make or break who you are. A two-letter word that will lead to a happier YES. In The Power of No, James and Claudia teach us, readers, how to connect with our true selves by saying NO to the things that may cause harm. The book teaches or reminds us that we are our own person. And no one is to dictate us what we should or should not, could or could not do. This is indeed a great book, especially for those who are trying to reach or know their true identity, for thos No. A two-letter word that can make or break who you are. A two-letter word that will lead to a happier YES. In The Power of No, James and Claudia teach us, readers, how to connect with our true selves by saying NO to the things that may cause harm. The book teaches or reminds us that we are our own person. And no one is to dictate us what we should or should not, could or could not do. This is indeed a great book, especially for those who are trying to reach or know their true identity, for those who have been neglecting their own health, and for those who are seeking "inner" peace (ala Kung Fu Panda.. Haha!). Please visit: Moments in Life for a full review. :)

  8. 5 out of 5

    Marisa

    Not bad, certainly had some motivational elements to it. I think I preferred the curtness of James more so than Claudia, who at times I found a little too airy-fairy for my liking. Raises some good ideas to put into practise for life management though. I would recommend, but probably with a small precursor of it being a tad icky at times as well as reiterating some blindingly obvious life points which may seem patronising to some.

  9. 4 out of 5

    Rich Christiansen

    Not at all what I was expecting. Essentially just a couple chatting about their thoughts; not really a well-thought out presentation. The female voice is difficult to understand at times in the audiobook.

  10. 4 out of 5

    Steven Woloszyk - (Wa-LUSH-ick)

    We see a tip of the cap to Eckhart Tolle and his best selling book, The Power of Now, right in this book’s title. So, it’s no surprise to find references to his Holiness, the Dalai Lama, Buddha, Thich Nhat Hahn, being “still,” meditation, etc. The book starts with a NO Bill of Rights. Here we find 11 rights such as, our right to take OUR time, the right to healthy relationships and real love, the right to have an abundant and fulfilled life, etc. Next, our authors, James and his wife Claudia, alte We see a tip of the cap to Eckhart Tolle and his best selling book, The Power of Now, right in this book’s title. So, it’s no surprise to find references to his Holiness, the Dalai Lama, Buddha, Thich Nhat Hahn, being “still,” meditation, etc. The book starts with a NO Bill of Rights. Here we find 11 rights such as, our right to take OUR time, the right to healthy relationships and real love, the right to have an abundant and fulfilled life, etc. Next, our authors, James and his wife Claudia, alternate back and forth, providing stories of the power of the word NO. We start with some of the more obvious things where we should say NO. We should say NO to negative chatter, gossip, toxic people, etc. As we progress through the book, we get into a bit more of the new age kind of thinking such as how saying NO to certain things helps with “mindset, abundance, gratitude, vibration” and all the familiar terms bandied about in the personal development space. Some chapters offer practice exercises at the end. One that I found of value was Claudia’s tips for “being still.” I continue to practice meditation, but my mind races like the Energizer Bunny, so I’m still a work in progress. Claudia offers a couple of new suggestions that I’ll likely give a whirl. This is a simple book and you might have 2-3 hours in total to get front to back. It’s extremely helpful information but most of it I’ve come across from prior reading. I desperately could have used the insight on the power of saying NO about 10 years ago, but seeing as this was only written in 2014, that was impossible! Amazon gives this one 4.5 stars after 280 reviews. Goodreads is less generous with 3.55 stars after 952 ratings and 88 reviews. This is my first Altucher experience and I read that Choose Yourself is a good one from James. I really enjoyed this one, especially the authenticity of authors, their willingness to share their vulnerabilities, and some of their darker days. I give it 4 stars and I highly recommend it for anyone who needs to learn to say NO! #FridaysFind #MIAGD #ThePowerOfNO #Altucher

  11. 4 out of 5

    Magda linga

    I don’t want to be rude but the general impression I get from this book is that the authors were high when they were writing it (or in hurry with no chance to reread what they’d written before it was published). It’s extremely sketchy, full of generalizations and lacks proper planning. The choice of topics and their order seems completely random. They authors often deal with deep issues (such as sex and love addiction) that deserve a separate book on 2-3 pages, presenting them in a way that you I don’t want to be rude but the general impression I get from this book is that the authors were high when they were writing it (or in hurry with no chance to reread what they’d written before it was published). It’s extremely sketchy, full of generalizations and lacks proper planning. The choice of topics and their order seems completely random. They authors often deal with deep issues (such as sex and love addiction) that deserve a separate book on 2-3 pages, presenting them in a way that you need to know what they’re talking about to understand what they’re saying. There’s some merit to some ideas but the book is written with annoying sloppiness.

  12. 5 out of 5

    Cloris Kylie

    Have you ever found the message in a book so compelling that you want to reread it immediately after you finish it? That’s what happened to me when I read “The Power of No” by James and Claudia Altucher. “Saying no” usually makes us think of what we don’t want in life. However, saying no to toxic environments and people also means saying yes to the abundance that is our birthright. There are seven facets of “No” explored in this book: The NO that chooses life Sometimes we adopt behaviors and attitude Have you ever found the message in a book so compelling that you want to reread it immediately after you finish it? That’s what happened to me when I read “The Power of No” by James and Claudia Altucher. “Saying no” usually makes us think of what we don’t want in life. However, saying no to toxic environments and people also means saying yes to the abundance that is our birthright. There are seven facets of “No” explored in this book: The NO that chooses life Sometimes we adopt behaviors and attitudes that threaten our physical wellbeing and can even shorten our lifespan. James Altucher shares a daily practice that helped him overcome a depression so severe that he considered suicide. This practice was simple but powerful: He met the needs of his body and stayed away from negativity (from internal and external sources). “Every time I’ve lost money and love, it’s because I squandered my physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health,” James writes. “Now, every day without fail, I do the Daily Practice to exercise the basic muscles of a healthy life. And it’s worked. I hope. I pray I don’t squander it again.” What harmful habit will you quit? The NO that brings true love, creativity, and abundance Many of us spend a big chunk of our days with people who aren’t good for us. We suffer and hope they change, or think that something is wrong with us. Let’s say no to these people and associate with those who uplift us and bring out the best in us. My favorite exercise in this chapter includes listing the people we engage with more than five times a week. Then, we rate on a scale of 1 to 10 how we feel after our interactions with each person, 10 being the best. Lower than an 8? That’s when we know we need to pull back from the person. Who will you choose to spend your time with? The NO to phony storytelling This is about rejecting mind programs that limit our happiness. These programs may come from the rules of society or from our upbringing. But no matter the source, saying no to what isn’t true to us will allow us to say yes to freedom. As the authors say, “The Power of No is the power of discernment. With spiritual skepticism we develop the discernment to know which rules to say yes to, which rules to say no to, and which rules need to be completely rewritten to save the universe.” What external expectation or rule will you eliminate from your life? The NO to the angers of the past This is a higher level of “No,” where we move into self-actualization. Saying no to the angers of the past means breaking from emotions than anchor us to the way things were, the way we used to be, the way we think life should be, and the way others mistreated us. The authors recommend noticing the things we tend to passionately dislike in others to get in touch with our real selves. Why? Because these traits might live in us too. For me, they key is to develop self-awareness. What grudge will you choose to let go? The NO to scarcity Here we learn to shift our perception from lack to abundance. The process starts by paying attention to the blessings that already exist in our life. If we continue focusing on what we don’t have, how can we feel abundant? If we don’t feel abundant, we won’t see the opportunities right before our eyes. What will you choose to appreciate today? The NO to noise Saying no to noise isn’t just about being in silence or meditating. It’s about saying no to news that scares us, gossip, and thoughts of worry, regret, or anger. How do we do this? By changing the conversation. In my case, I don’t invest my time watching shows or reading stories about how awful the world is. I shut down the negative noise. As a result, most of the time I live in a welcoming (not a hostile) world. What toxic noise will you eliminate? The NO to “me” This means surrendering. Surrendering to whom? To the higher part of us; the part that is ready to say no. When you say no to your ego, you say yes to you. What part of your false self needs to go? How will you allow your true self to come through today? The message is clear: it’s time to say no to sickness, negative environments, low-energy emotions, abuse, and scarcity. It’s time to say yes to you. For more inspiring articles, podcasts, and other resources for success and fulfillment, visit my website www.cloriskylie.com. Click here to request priority access to articles like this, podcasts, and many more resources to help you succeed! FTC Disclosure: I received this book for free from Hay House Publishing for this review. The opinion in this review is unbiased and reflects my honest judgment of the product.

  13. 4 out of 5

    Sarah Jimenez

    I've always been a bit of a pushover. Often I’d find myself agreeing to things I didn't want to do, didn't have time to do, or because I was afraid the person who was asking for the favor would not like me if I said no. I've changed in many ways and I am much more confident and okay with telling people no, yet, sometimes I feel I still struggle with this. I was excited to read The Power of No: Because One Little Word Can Bring Health, Abundance, and Happiness by James Altucher and his wife, Claud I've always been a bit of a pushover. Often I’d find myself agreeing to things I didn't want to do, didn't have time to do, or because I was afraid the person who was asking for the favor would not like me if I said no. I've changed in many ways and I am much more confident and okay with telling people no, yet, sometimes I feel I still struggle with this. I was excited to read The Power of No: Because One Little Word Can Bring Health, Abundance, and Happiness by James Altucher and his wife, Claudia Azula Altucher. I am always looking for ways to change and shape myself for the better. Unfortunately I was a bit disappointed with this book. While I can see how it can be a helpful book, perhaps its audience is those who are at a very different point in their life than me. The book is told in a conversational format with certain chapters and sections switching between John and Claudia. It’s a mix of personal stories, general advice, and what has worked for them. Along with this are exercises at the end of most of the chapters. While I've always approached books that are “self-help” in general with the attitude of taking what worked for me and leaving the rest, I found myself leaving..quite a bit of the book behind. It was unfortunate that this book did not resonate with me as it has with so other people. Perhaps I am just at a different point in my life where I don’t need a book such as this one to guide me. I believe their personal stories that comprise much of the book could be good anecdotal advice and I do think that if you were extremely shy, not confident, or just extremely afraid of life this book could be a good starting point if you need outside validation that it is in fact okay to say “no” to things that drain your life. FTC Disclosure: I received this book for free from Hay House Publishing for this review. The opinion in this review is unbiased and reflects my honest judgment of the product.

  14. 5 out of 5

    Dawn

    "The Power of No" is a must read. It makes "no" a positive word, because it frees us up to make room for "yes." "No" is one of the shortest words in the English language , but we don't use it enough. We get overworked, tired, resentful. This book shows us just how and when to say, "no." James and Claudia Altucher show how the "seven types of no" lead to positive things in our lives--we must use them more often. My major takeaways: 1. Say “no” more often 2. Saying “no” is a risk but it reaps a bi "The Power of No" is a must read. It makes "no" a positive word, because it frees us up to make room for "yes." "No" is one of the shortest words in the English language , but we don't use it enough. We get overworked, tired, resentful. This book shows us just how and when to say, "no." James and Claudia Altucher show how the "seven types of no" lead to positive things in our lives--we must use them more often. My major takeaways: 1. Say “no” more often 2. Saying “no” is a risk but it reaps a bigger reward. 3. Ask for help. James and Claudia say “help” is the second most powerful word in the English language. I loved this book. There are activities, reflection questions, and exercises I'll do over and over again. This was one of those books that resonated personally--I felt like James and Claudia wrote this just for me. It will be a help in my personal and professional life--I will say "no" and "help" more often, and I will recognize the signs when I am not. This book is essential reading for parents, teachers, or people who overdo for others but wish they could cut back a little. As someone who falls into all three categories, I needed this book, and am grateful.

  15. 4 out of 5

    Andy Nieradko

    There is an admirable level of honesty the authors bring to this book. I would highly recommend it to anyone who is suffering from depression or high levels of stress. A caregiver type of person, who is always taking on more and more responsibility without taking care of themselves would also greatly benefit from reading The Power of No. Besides the lessons from author's personal experience, this book offers many powerful insights and several helpful tools for quieting the mind and getting to wh There is an admirable level of honesty the authors bring to this book. I would highly recommend it to anyone who is suffering from depression or high levels of stress. A caregiver type of person, who is always taking on more and more responsibility without taking care of themselves would also greatly benefit from reading The Power of No. Besides the lessons from author's personal experience, this book offers many powerful insights and several helpful tools for quieting the mind and getting to what is really important to you and your goals in life. Ultimately The Power of No, is not really about the things you say "no" to, but rather about defining what you're allowing and giving up trying to control (and obsess over) the things that are out of your control. The Power of No is a great read, and I take offense to the amazon reviewers who gave it a negative review without bothering to read the whole book. I was given a free review copy of this book by Hay House Publishing, I was not financially compensated in any way, and the opinions expressed herein are my own personal opinions which I reached after reading the entire book, like a responsible reviewer.

  16. 5 out of 5

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    Notes by Derek Sivers: Quite scattered book, but inside the mess was a nice reminder of the importance of saying no to anything that doesn't serve you well. Highlights: Decide who in your life drains you of energy, and then purge them so you can soar. The best way to negotiate is to take the time and space to determine what is best for you. You succeed by saying yes only when you are ready and the conditions are right. In removing yourself temporarily from the situation, you reduce the supply of your Notes by Derek Sivers: Quite scattered book, but inside the mess was a nice reminder of the importance of saying no to anything that doesn't serve you well. Highlights: Decide who in your life drains you of energy, and then purge them so you can soar. The best way to negotiate is to take the time and space to determine what is best for you. You succeed by saying yes only when you are ready and the conditions are right. In removing yourself temporarily from the situation, you reduce the supply of yourself. In basic economics, value is a function of supply and demand. When supply goes down, value goes up. To stop negative chatter: Imagine someone you love. Imagine what you would say to him or her. Now say it to yourself. I wrote down ideas every day for articles I could write and businesses I could start. If you don’t exercise the idea muscle, it atrophies just like any other muscle. And it atrophies quickly. You must work the idea muscle every day to turn into an idea machine. Being clear about which relationships and which people we let into our lives is the key to access our creative forces. Filtering the people we allow into our lives is probably the most important factor in determining whether we will live a happy life or not. The primary people in your life: Rate on a scale of 1 to 10 how you feel after your interactions with that person, 10 being the best. Anyone lower than an 8, begin to pull back from. Lower than a 5, stay a little farther away from. It doesn’t mean you cut people off completely if they rate low on your list. This is a dimmer switch, not an on-and-off switch. Nobody had been on that date that night. As far as I could see, two bodies were out and about in Orlando, but no souls. Gary and Lisa were not there; rather, it was two sets of rules playing against each other, two books filled with instructions, pick-up lines, controlling strategies, and a ten-step guide. I had never been present on a date either. I had never met a man without having an agenda. Women will also tell you who they are in this way. Actions, words, being on time or not, playing games or not, all of these details reveal us. People who are disrespectful or manipulative early on are likely to continue the pattern. Take them at face value. Whenever I feel abused or disrespected, I go into a cycle of thinking that is difficult to stop. You think again about the person, whisper in your head somewhat louder, “No.” And then louder. And then actually whisper it aloud. You will eventually stop thinking about that person. Jealousy is the road map to the place where I feel unloved. “Think of your life as a train station,” I said. “You are on the platform and you see a train approaching. You really want this train to be your train. You like the way it shines and how it seems so cool and strong - you are convinced it is the one that will take you home. And so you start making signals to it, and then you even start jumping up and down close to the tracks. “But this train is not meant to stop here. The conductor of the train is confused. She starts to slow down and wonders what you are doing. She is nervous. “Sensing that the train is not stopping, you jump onto the tracks, to the horror of all the people around you, and make even bigger arm signals while you jump up and down. By now the horrified conductor is calling the police and pressing all sorts of red buttons. Emergency vehicles are arriving on the scene. Everything is coming to a halt. “Meanwhile, the train that is meant for you, the one that is your train by divine design, is right behind this one. Only you cannot see this because you are too busy causing unnecessary drama. “Your train is waiting somewhere, feeling lonely, unable to pull into your station. The conductor of the train that is meant for you wonders what may be causing the delays. She longs to arrive home, and all the while it is you who is causing the traffic jam, because you just can’t stop jumping up and down.” To say no to self-sabotage, get out of the train tracks and accept the flow of life. Let the train continue, wish it well as it leaves, and trust that yours is coming. The next time someone has an opinion you strongly disagree with, try this: Don’t argue; it’s pointless. You will never change their mind. Let them state their opinion. Try to learn one thing from it. Try to respect one angle of their point of view. Everyone just wants to be heard. Listen. Don’t do anything you don’t want to do. When you agree to do something you don’t want to do, you will resent the person who asked you to do it. There is a psychological law that says we all tend to follow our own ways of thinking without changing because we want to appear “consistent.” You have to domesticate your brain the way you domesticate a dog. The useful/not useful technique: With each thought that comes up, label it either useful or not useful. Saying no to others means first saying no to your brain - to the anxieties and the regrets and the not-useful thoughts. Attempt one week of living without any complaints whatsoever. There are “rules” to follow if you want the girl or the guy to like you and love you. What happens when she finds the real you is another story. By that time there might not be a real you anyway. Between black and white there is a beautiful spectrum. Not of grays but of all the colors of the universe. Everywhere you go there are rules and there are gatekeepers of those rules: total strangers whose job it is to prevent you from doing something you want to do. Showing compassion toward those gatekeepers will allow those gates to magically swing open more often than you can possibly hope to expect otherwise. Why? Because the gatekeepers are not used to receiving a sudden onslaught of compassion or genuine love. Ask yourself, What do I really need to understand? And be quiet. Listen for the answers. How do you recognize an abusive person? These are some of the most common ways: a) They try to make you feel guilty. b) They try to make you angry. c) They try to make you afraid. d) They try to make you feel wrong. e) They try to make themselves the victim. How do I feel about myself when I am around this person? Do I feel good about myself? If the answer is no, you know you need to move away from the person. Many people say, “Live life like it’s your last day.” It’s everyone else you need to think about. Treat everyone else as if it’s their last day. Try to help them be less stressed. Try to fulfill their dreams for the day. You don’t talk badly about someone about to die. Really listen to them. Learn from them. Honesty to a point. I will never harm anyone. Whoever needs to manipulate is actually in the weaker position. Everything you say might seem to them like a suicide note, when I first started revealing the most intimate issues of my life. Notice those things that you tend to passionately dislike in others. These traits live in you, too. They are the part that you’d rather not look at. Ask the question, “Where am I like this?” To keep living in scarcity is to reject the next phase in our evolution. Clichés exist for a reason: they contain the seeds of truth. Write a things-I-did list at the end of the day. The people who use luck as an accusation who will never have it. Luck is something that is earned, and once you have earned it, you will always know how to get it back. You will say no to the people who try to bring you down, who try to use their own bad luck to control you Luck equals (1) diversification plus (2) persistence. Diversification means coming up with a thousand ideas and implementing the 1 or 2 percent that seem reasonable. Persistence is a sentence filled with failures punctuated by the occasional success. When you are speaking with other people, silences are good. Pauses mean love. Rushing our words means fear. It shows our inability to pay attention, that we don’t want to let anything in, we must fill in the silences, and we think we know better. Lead lives that teach by example, that show instead of tell. Sit. For one hour. All at once. Every day. Be silent, and let your thoughts go. Silence works. Nobody can teach anyone how to do this. Be careful that your definition of minimalism doesn’t border on a sort of material anorexia, where you deny yourself the small celebrations that life wants you to have. Silence is the sign of a professional. You know not to ask a professional what he’s working on. What he’s seen. The less supply you give of your words and wisdom, the greater value that wisdom will have. The less you talk, the more the brain conserves its energy for when words are important. Before, during, and after you think, say, or do anything, determine if it will harm someone. To practice positive thinking on legitimately bad situations will only make you more stuck. When you go on a long trip, you see the road in front of you. You trust that if you stay on that road, you will get to where you need to be. You don’t try to see the end of the road. You surrender to the fact that the road knows better than you what is at the end of it. Outsource 90 percent of mentorship to books. Time it takes to reinvent yourself: five years. Here’s a description of the five years: Year One: You’re flailing and reading everything and just starting to do. Year Two: You know who you need to talk to and network with. You’re doing every day. You finally know what the Monopoly board looks like in your new endeavors. Year Three: You’re good enough to start making money. It might not be a living yet. Year Four: You’re making a good living, and you can quit your day job. Year Five: You’re making wealth. When people say, “It’s not about the money,” they should make sure they have a different measuring stick. Take your favorite story by your favorite author and type it word for word. Ask yourself why he wrote each word. He’s your mentor today. If you want to start a business, write all the specs and details of the idea for your business. How do I know what I should do? Whatever area you feel like reading 500 books about. Use your spare time to reinvent. Reinvention is collecting little bits and pieces of time and carving them the way you want them to be. Say no to the superfluous distractions because you must find some time for you. After books, you can read websites, forums, magazines. But most of that is garbage. Start with 500 books. Sleep is the number-one key to successful health. Remember the last day of school, there was this massive feeling of “Who cares?” because there was nothing left to care about. No exams, no assignments, no boring classes. Death. It’s like the last day of school all over again.

  17. 4 out of 5

    Micky Blue Skies

    No is such a little word that holds so much power and can be the pathway to health, freedom and abundance. Why is it so hard for us to say no? Because growing up we are taught to be nice and saying no can seem so unaccommodating. So, we say yes to relationships we really do not want to be in; events we do not want to go to and jobs we hate but have to pay the bills, so we feel there is no other way. James Altucher is the REAL DEAL and my favorite motivational go-to person. My life continues to ch No is such a little word that holds so much power and can be the pathway to health, freedom and abundance. Why is it so hard for us to say no? Because growing up we are taught to be nice and saying no can seem so unaccommodating. So, we say yes to relationships we really do not want to be in; events we do not want to go to and jobs we hate but have to pay the bills, so we feel there is no other way. James Altucher is the REAL DEAL and my favorite motivational go-to person. My life continues to change with each of his books. If you are tired of living an unfulfilled and unhealthy life, The Power of No, is exactly what you need to create a better future for yourself. For the complete review, please check it on my website: http://mybookhabit.com/the-power-of-n...

  18. 5 out of 5

    Blair Hodgkinson

    I listened to the Audible audiobook. I may have enjoyed it more as I found the authors' joint reading of the material to be less dramatic and more sincere than it might have seemed from a hired voice performer (in this one case). I found the overemphasis on abundance as material wealth a little uninspiring, but as the authors addressed this emphasis and pointed out that you can work toward whatever makes you feel wealthy I was able to put this aside more easily. Lots of good advice, and as with m I listened to the Audible audiobook. I may have enjoyed it more as I found the authors' joint reading of the material to be less dramatic and more sincere than it might have seemed from a hired voice performer (in this one case). I found the overemphasis on abundance as material wealth a little uninspiring, but as the authors addressed this emphasis and pointed out that you can work toward whatever makes you feel wealthy I was able to put this aside more easily. Lots of good advice, and as with many books on self-improvement, that advice is often confirmation of what you already know but forget to implement. I do intend to try and implement some of the ideas taken from this book, and I think it was worth the five hour investment of my time.

  19. 4 out of 5

    Gregory

    ARC form Net Galley for a non-biased review. Before you start reading this book make sure you learn to use the highlight and note function on your e-reader. Or if you have a physical copy go to your local office supply store and see if they have gallon buckets of high-lighter. I swear my Kindle glowed a little brighter when I was reading this insightful manifesto. In a yes, yes world we are reminded of the power of no and how much we can accomplish when we learn to embrace no. This is one of those ARC form Net Galley for a non-biased review. Before you start reading this book make sure you learn to use the highlight and note function on your e-reader. Or if you have a physical copy go to your local office supply store and see if they have gallon buckets of high-lighter. I swear my Kindle glowed a little brighter when I was reading this insightful manifesto. In a yes, yes world we are reminded of the power of no and how much we can accomplish when we learn to embrace no. This is one of those books that I will read again and again. Top Hat Reviews

  20. 4 out of 5

    Anthony Cheng

    I'm torn on the rating for this one, since I do love James Altucher's other books, and the parts of this book that were solely his had that same quality. However, the switching off of chapters between James and his wife and co-author, Claudia, made for a schizophrenic reading experience. Also, perhaps as a consequence of this conceit, there was a lot more "woo-woo" than I've come to expect from a James Altucher book. There's some good stuff in here, but I can't wholeheartedly recommend it. I'm torn on the rating for this one, since I do love James Altucher's other books, and the parts of this book that were solely his had that same quality. However, the switching off of chapters between James and his wife and co-author, Claudia, made for a schizophrenic reading experience. Also, perhaps as a consequence of this conceit, there was a lot more "woo-woo" than I've come to expect from a James Altucher book. There's some good stuff in here, but I can't wholeheartedly recommend it.

  21. 4 out of 5

    Katherine

    I just didn't connect with this book. Although their were a few tidbits that resonated with my life, overall I felt the authors were on a different plane. One of my favorite quotes, "When you have a tiny, tiny piece of crap in your soup, it doesn't matter how much more water you pour in and how many more spices you put on top. There's crap in your soup." I just didn't connect with this book. Although their were a few tidbits that resonated with my life, overall I felt the authors were on a different plane. One of my favorite quotes, "When you have a tiny, tiny piece of crap in your soup, it doesn't matter how much more water you pour in and how many more spices you put on top. There's crap in your soup."

  22. 5 out of 5

    Clayton

    I got the book recommendation from a personal development IT training. Awful book that is about meditation, Deepak Chopra, and Buddhist teaching. A waste of time and skimmed with very little value obtained from the book.

  23. 4 out of 5

    Desiree

    There were lots of little things / advice that I enjoyed throughout this book, but overall it just left me with a "It's okay" impression. There were lots of little things / advice that I enjoyed throughout this book, but overall it just left me with a "It's okay" impression.

  24. 4 out of 5

    Leslie Goddard

    I just didn't get this book. The writing felt like it straining to be pseudo-spiritual and I had to translate it in my mind, which was annoying. As were the frequent "quips" that didn't always make sense. But more than that, the content did not match what the title promised. The focus wasn't on learning how to say no, not in the way I was expecting, but instead focused predominantly on how to create a meaningful career/job for yourself. That's not what I got this book for. I already have a hugel I just didn't get this book. The writing felt like it straining to be pseudo-spiritual and I had to translate it in my mind, which was annoying. As were the frequent "quips" that didn't always make sense. But more than that, the content did not match what the title promised. The focus wasn't on learning how to say no, not in the way I was expecting, but instead focused predominantly on how to create a meaningful career/job for yourself. That's not what I got this book for. I already have a hugely meaningful career. What I need is insight into how I can use the word "no" with my clients and to myself in a way that feels safe and powerful. This book did not provide that. I wound up skipping past page after page of writing that neither spoke to me nor fulfilled my expectation for a book titled "The Power of No."

  25. 4 out of 5

    Adelina

    The quirkiness of this book kept me intrigued long enough to finish it to see what else it might lead to. The very beginning of listing the ways we can say no, I found most beneficial. There are a few flakes of insight with practices that I found value in. This book makes for a great in-person seminar more than something to read. I felt it was hard to focus and not allow my mind to wander through the book. Yes the stories are the explanations behind the thoughts or practices however, it just felt The quirkiness of this book kept me intrigued long enough to finish it to see what else it might lead to. The very beginning of listing the ways we can say no, I found most beneficial. There are a few flakes of insight with practices that I found value in. This book makes for a great in-person seminar more than something to read. I felt it was hard to focus and not allow my mind to wander through the book. Yes the stories are the explanations behind the thoughts or practices however, it just felt longer than it needed to be. I was hoping for empowering techniques to use when we feel compelled to say yes I'm not sure what I expected from this book but it is not what I thought. Insightful and reassuring to some of the techniques I already use, but not a reference book I would return back to.

  26. 5 out of 5

    alyx reads sometimes

    One time a guy approached me in a pizza shop asking me for some change, so I gave him $2. He didn’t look homeless or anything, I was just a scared 17 year old girl. He asked for an extra dollar because a slice was $2.50, and what did I do? I gave him the dollar because I couldn’t say no. I told my friends this and they all laughed then forced me to repeat the word No. Anyways, I’ve always been a people-pleaser and was too afraid to say no, but this book shows you that your unwanted Yeses hurt no One time a guy approached me in a pizza shop asking me for some change, so I gave him $2. He didn’t look homeless or anything, I was just a scared 17 year old girl. He asked for an extra dollar because a slice was $2.50, and what did I do? I gave him the dollar because I couldn’t say no. I told my friends this and they all laughed then forced me to repeat the word No. Anyways, I’ve always been a people-pleaser and was too afraid to say no, but this book shows you that your unwanted Yeses hurt nobody else but you. I love the Q&A portion in the last chunk of the book because of its sheer honesty. I never knew that saying No was an act of self-prioritization, again because we were never taught this. Can someone ask me for some change so I can say no to them?

  27. 5 out of 5

    Susan Miller

    The exercises are inventive and new & potentially helpful - I don't know yet as I've just begun them. I liked the twist of making a list of wishes, things I accomplished in a day, things I am afraid of, and changing one thing in my daily routine. Wishes aren't new - but I've never considered actually making a list of them. One of Claudia's sections got through with breathing and visualizing - exhaling and envisioning a lotus flower blooming above my head and inhaling down into my roots through my The exercises are inventive and new & potentially helpful - I don't know yet as I've just begun them. I liked the twist of making a list of wishes, things I accomplished in a day, things I am afraid of, and changing one thing in my daily routine. Wishes aren't new - but I've never considered actually making a list of them. One of Claudia's sections got through with breathing and visualizing - exhaling and envisioning a lotus flower blooming above my head and inhaling down into my roots through my legs and being grounded. I've always had trouble breathing deeply into my core - This was instantly helpful and a great distraction from anything else as I continue to focus on my breathing.

  28. 4 out of 5

    David Geschke

    Took me a while to get through, but great book overall So I started reading this book a while ago - maybe a year or more? I like James Altucher’s writing a lot. I’ve read other books by him. This one lost me halfway through and it sat in my Kindle until just recently. I revisited from where I left off, and wow. The last half of the book was amazing. I guess it had to wait until now to have meaning for me, but - makes me want to go read the first half again just to see what I missed when I started Took me a while to get through, but great book overall So I started reading this book a while ago - maybe a year or more? I like James Altucher’s writing a lot. I’ve read other books by him. This one lost me halfway through and it sat in my Kindle until just recently. I revisited from where I left off, and wow. The last half of the book was amazing. I guess it had to wait until now to have meaning for me, but - makes me want to go read the first half again just to see what I missed when I started it. The last half was so good I’m giving it four stars. Not five since I have a hard time giving five stars to a book I was ever able to walk away from.

  29. 4 out of 5

    Brian Hanley

    More self-help and less practical than I had hoped. Some points were very well made and the portions I listened to on Audible were very entertaining. I had expected more real-world practices to better create boundaries and protect your time for what matters. That is there but it is cloaked in a lot of very trite language and metaphors for folks who really are at their wits end. I am not there, I was simply looking for some thought-provoking commentary on boundaries. Both authors are passionate a More self-help and less practical than I had hoped. Some points were very well made and the portions I listened to on Audible were very entertaining. I had expected more real-world practices to better create boundaries and protect your time for what matters. That is there but it is cloaked in a lot of very trite language and metaphors for folks who really are at their wits end. I am not there, I was simply looking for some thought-provoking commentary on boundaries. Both authors are passionate and I enjoyed the style.

  30. 4 out of 5

    Christy Bellinger

    There were little blurbs I enjoyed in this book, but overall I think it was disjointed. Perhaps that is because it was written by two authors - I’m not sure. I could have done without the ‘imagine you’re an alien’ exercise, and wish the authors would have focused more on setting boundaries which is what I was looking for when I picked this book. It’s not the worst thing I’ve read, but definitely below average in the realm of self-help.

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