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Who knows the ins and outs of romance better than a Harlequin editor? A surprising and exhilarating look into Patience Bloom’s unexpected real-life love story. At some point, we’ve all wished romance could be more like fiction. Patience Bloom certainly did, many times over. As a teen she fell in love with Harlequin novels and imagined her life would turn out just like the h Who knows the ins and outs of romance better than a Harlequin editor? A surprising and exhilarating look into Patience Bloom’s unexpected real-life love story. At some point, we’ve all wished romance could be more like fiction. Patience Bloom certainly did, many times over. As a teen she fell in love with Harlequin novels and imagined her life would turn out just like the heroines’ on the page: That shy guy she had a crush on wouldn’t just take her out—he’d sweep her off her feet with witty banter, quiet charm, and a secret life as a rock star. Not exactly her reality, but Bloom kept reading books that fed her reveries. Years later she moved to New York and found her dream job, editing romances for Harlequin. Every day, her romantic fantasies came true—on paper. Bloom became an expert when it came to fictional love stories, editing amazing books and learning everything she could about the romance business. But her dating life remained uninspired. She nearly gave up on love. Then one day a real-life chance at romance made her wonder if what she’d been writing and editing all those years might be true. A Facebook message from a high school friend, Sam, sparked a relationship with more promise than she’d had in years. But Sam lived thousands of miles away—they hadn’t seen each other in more than twenty years. Was it worth the risk? Finally, Bloom learned: Love and romance can conquer all.


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Who knows the ins and outs of romance better than a Harlequin editor? A surprising and exhilarating look into Patience Bloom’s unexpected real-life love story. At some point, we’ve all wished romance could be more like fiction. Patience Bloom certainly did, many times over. As a teen she fell in love with Harlequin novels and imagined her life would turn out just like the h Who knows the ins and outs of romance better than a Harlequin editor? A surprising and exhilarating look into Patience Bloom’s unexpected real-life love story. At some point, we’ve all wished romance could be more like fiction. Patience Bloom certainly did, many times over. As a teen she fell in love with Harlequin novels and imagined her life would turn out just like the heroines’ on the page: That shy guy she had a crush on wouldn’t just take her out—he’d sweep her off her feet with witty banter, quiet charm, and a secret life as a rock star. Not exactly her reality, but Bloom kept reading books that fed her reveries. Years later she moved to New York and found her dream job, editing romances for Harlequin. Every day, her romantic fantasies came true—on paper. Bloom became an expert when it came to fictional love stories, editing amazing books and learning everything she could about the romance business. But her dating life remained uninspired. She nearly gave up on love. Then one day a real-life chance at romance made her wonder if what she’d been writing and editing all those years might be true. A Facebook message from a high school friend, Sam, sparked a relationship with more promise than she’d had in years. But Sam lived thousands of miles away—they hadn’t seen each other in more than twenty years. Was it worth the risk? Finally, Bloom learned: Love and romance can conquer all.

30 review for Romance Is My Day Job: A Memoir of Finding Love at Last

  1. 4 out of 5

    Carly

    Two stars might be being unfair to this book. There was nothing wrong about it per se. It was a super quick read. And if Patience were 15 years younger, I could see us being friends. That being said, there was nothing so unique about her life in the book that warranted a book. (There's nothing in my life to rate one either.) I was also disappointed there wasn't more of her day job in there. I don't think this is me being unrealistic; it's in the title. Being an editor at Harlequin is probably one Two stars might be being unfair to this book. There was nothing wrong about it per se. It was a super quick read. And if Patience were 15 years younger, I could see us being friends. That being said, there was nothing so unique about her life in the book that warranted a book. (There's nothing in my life to rate one either.) I was also disappointed there wasn't more of her day job in there. I don't think this is me being unrealistic; it's in the title. Being an editor at Harlequin is probably one of the coolest jobs someone can have. And that's coming from someone who's worked in publishing. I realize that some days, even the best job in the world is still just a job. But there have to be at least a couple of great stories through the years. We get none of those. I was also disappointed by the female friendships in the book. You've got a female protagonist working in a field that's got to be close to 100% women, and I'm pretty sure this book barely passes the Bechdel test. There are a lot of times Patience mentions her wonderful friends and co-workers. But that's always followed up by how they are so wonderful because they're always there to talk with her about the guys she's dating. She never talks about anything she does outside of dating for the first forty years of her life. Almost all of my friends are unmarried ladies. But mostly these are the people I go to Restaurant Week with or go to London with (to see the Harry Potter studio tour). My friends are the people with whom I go see Broadway and off-Broadway shows. They are who I call when I come home to discover it raining from the ceiling in my apartment. They are who calls me on a Sunday night to go sit in the Delorean from Back to the Future. Sometimes we talk about guys. But more often it will be about pop music or our families or 401(k)s or the future of storytelling in the digital landscape. And I'm sad that this book edited down what I can only assume is Patience's rich and interesting life into a mediocre, 2-D rom-com.

  2. 4 out of 5

    Elizabeth

    Source: I received a copy from Folio Literary Management in exchange for an honest and unbiased review. Note: These are my personal opinions. I received no outside person comments or opinions. I wanted to like this book, but alas, I just couldn't. I didn't understand any of the romance heroes Bloom compared her real life men to. There was Mr. Darcy who I know as I think is from Pride and Prejudice possibly? But I have never read that book. And then Bloom just went on for 300 and some pages compari Source: I received a copy from Folio Literary Management in exchange for an honest and unbiased review. Note: These are my personal opinions. I received no outside person comments or opinions. I wanted to like this book, but alas, I just couldn't. I didn't understand any of the romance heroes Bloom compared her real life men to. There was Mr. Darcy who I know as I think is from Pride and Prejudice possibly? But I have never read that book. And then Bloom just went on for 300 and some pages comparing and contrasting romance heroes who I have absolutely no idea who and what books they are from. I do not read romance novels. Life is not a romance novel, and sadly, men in real life are not heroes you read about in books. They do not come and rescue you. If you're stuck in life, I'm sorry to say its your job to get yourself out of the hole. If this author spent all her time comparing men to romance novel superheroes as she did in this book, I really don't feel sorry for her. This book was very similar to Katie Heaney's Never Have I Ever: My Life So Far Without A Date Which I have reviewed Here Unlike Heaney's novel where she was looking for Mr. Hottie, Bloom was looking for her very own romance novel hero. There was very little information as to her life. She did a great job comparing and contrasting romance novel men to real life men. I'm sure an English teacher would be so proud. Bloom kissed a lot of frogs before she found her prince. And low and behold it was a man with whom she attended school with 20+ years ago which shows how powerful the internet can be. I have my own quarrels with men and lack of love life, but I know for a fact that real life men are not something to be compared to fiction. There were a few funny lines, but mostly I think Bloom tried too hard to be funny and lost track of what really mattered: telling the actual story. There were also a lot of unanswered questions. Bloom would mention something then say, "more on that later" then not even bring up the topic. It was frustrating when she did that because nothing made sense and everything became inconsistent. Overall, I'd love to read a good dating book where the author doesn't portray herself as a damsel in distress and then finally being rescued by a man.

  3. 4 out of 5

    Amanda

    I finished this last night with a huge smile on my face. I am partial to stories-with-happy-endings, and this memoir certainly didn't let me down n that regard. But it was so much more! Patience Bloom is a reader, and an editor, so her writing and her story flowed so well that it was hard not to stay up late and gobble it up (which I did!) I respected her for integrating a difficult aspect of her life-- which made me admire her all the more. Romance Is My Day Job made me want to listen to more D I finished this last night with a huge smile on my face. I am partial to stories-with-happy-endings, and this memoir certainly didn't let me down n that regard. But it was so much more! Patience Bloom is a reader, and an editor, so her writing and her story flowed so well that it was hard not to stay up late and gobble it up (which I did!) I respected her for integrating a difficult aspect of her life-- which made me admire her all the more. Romance Is My Day Job made me want to listen to more Duran Duran and hear more of Patience Bloom's Marge Simpson voice. Brava!

  4. 4 out of 5

    Karyl

    It may be that I am not part of the target demographic for this book. I never got into romance novels, let alone the Harlequin books the author devours in college and then as part of her job as an editor. I admit that Bloom has an engaging writing style, and the flow to her story is a good one. However, I have several issues with this book. For one thing, it's written in present tense. I know that's quite a quibble, and making a mountain out of a mole hill, but I don't care for books written in It may be that I am not part of the target demographic for this book. I never got into romance novels, let alone the Harlequin books the author devours in college and then as part of her job as an editor. I admit that Bloom has an engaging writing style, and the flow to her story is a good one. However, I have several issues with this book. For one thing, it's written in present tense. I know that's quite a quibble, and making a mountain out of a mole hill, but I don't care for books written in the present tense, especially dealing with events that happened in the past. It made it difficult for me to keep track of what was happening at times. Secondly, her obsession with boys/men/dating was a little off-putting. Perhaps I simply don't understand, as I was married at a relatively young age, but I don't recall my entire high school and college career revolving around whether a boy liked me or not. I enjoyed my classes, I went out with friends, I stayed home and read my novels -- all without obsessing whether this boy or that liked me or knew my name or wanted to date me. It's like her entire personality is wrapped up in finding a partner. Lastly, I felt it dragged on a little too long. We already know that Patience is going to marry Sam Bloom, from the very beginning. So describing each and every terrible relationship in great detail got a little wearying. Also her bad choices made me uncomfortable. She would *know* this guy was a total jerk from his behavior (throwing her cat off the bed?! Who *does* that?!), yet she would be so powerless that she would continue to be in a relationship with him, regardless of how he treated her. I could kind of understand it more if she didn't realize that she deserved better, but she writes in her memoirs, "I knew this guy was bad news but I was so weak that I stayed with him for fear of being alone on Valentine's Day." I suppose it's part of the trauma she suffered with her friend that one terrible night, but I wish she had been stronger -- for herself. I also would have liked more information on how Patience and Sam are doing now. They did have their fairy tale wedding, but how has reality held up? Is he still her Prince Charming? I do hope so. I'm sure this would be very well received by those who enjoy romance novels, and it is refreshing to read a book written by someone who understands the English language. Unfortunately it just isn't a book for me.

  5. 5 out of 5

    Gillian Brownlee

    I don't know if Patience and I would be friends. I like to think we would be, but her habit to trying to fit old boyfriends into the molds of romance novel heroes is a bit much. Not to mention how she still refers to herself as a "girl" even while in her mid-40 s. All that being said, I found myself so invested in her story. By the time the end of the book came around, I was almost in tears. She seems to be a genuinely good person, and I was really rooting for her! As a narrator, Patience was tho I don't know if Patience and I would be friends. I like to think we would be, but her habit to trying to fit old boyfriends into the molds of romance novel heroes is a bit much. Not to mention how she still refers to herself as a "girl" even while in her mid-40 s. All that being said, I found myself so invested in her story. By the time the end of the book came around, I was almost in tears. She seems to be a genuinely good person, and I was really rooting for her! As a narrator, Patience was thoroughly average . However, there's still something slightly magical about an author reading her own story/

  6. 4 out of 5

    Jaime

    I finished it. Read like a diary. Only skipped a little in the middle. And scanned a bit at the end. But for the record, I didn't like Eat, Pray, Love either. I finished it. Read like a diary. Only skipped a little in the middle. And scanned a bit at the end. But for the record, I didn't like Eat, Pray, Love either.

  7. 5 out of 5

    Carolyn Hill

    Three and a half stars rounded up because it made me laugh out loud several times. This is a true life memoir that reminded me of Bridget Jones' Diary, which also made me cackle. Chick lit romance for real. Patience Bloom (Smith for 99% of the book) chronicles her romances from high school until a rather late marriage in her early forties. While her romances were disappointing, none were truly disastrous. Though unsuccessful in love, she finds her dream career working her way up to an editorial Three and a half stars rounded up because it made me laugh out loud several times. This is a true life memoir that reminded me of Bridget Jones' Diary, which also made me cackle. Chick lit romance for real. Patience Bloom (Smith for 99% of the book) chronicles her romances from high school until a rather late marriage in her early forties. While her romances were disappointing, none were truly disastrous. Though unsuccessful in love, she finds her dream career working her way up to an editorial position at Harlequin, the publisher of romances. (Nice to know that at one time Latin majors could get jobs in publishing.) She had swooned to Harlequin's tales of romantic heroes since a teenager and has found her ideal job where she gets to read romances and get paid for it. The hilarious parts of the book are when she compares real life characters and relationships to those Harlequin style. Why is it that men don't act like the romantic heroes in the books? (If the brooding hunk doesn't speak to you it's probably because he's shy and worshiping you from afar.) Her own experiences only accentuate the fact that the characters and the plots in genre romances are pure fantasy. People just don't act like that. But that's not to say that romance doesn't exist, and Patience finds it on Facebook, no less, when she reconnects with the class clown from her boarding school whom she shared one dance with on prom night. I never read Harlequin romances. I once thought formula romances, which sell better than any other books, couldn't be that hard to write, so I tried reading them to learn the territory. Well, I couldn't ever finish them because I thought they were ridiculous. That ended that idea. Chick lit and "women's fiction" I can handle, but not Harlequin romances. I'm not disparaging them for those who enjoy them, any more than any other genre I don't care to read. They're just not my style. So for someone who doesn't read genre romances, who is nearly old enough to be Patience's mother, and who has been out of the search for a life partner for four decades, I still found this book entertaining. Patience Bloom could be self-deprecating but she never suffered from self-loathing. Even when her cork is pushed down deep into troubled waters, she bounces back up to the surface. (There is one very disturbing event she must recover from, and she proves to be brave and resilient. She does not totally gloss over this, but neither does she elaborate on it or its residual effects. She manages to keep her tone light for this memoir despite the real horror she endured.) Even knowing that Patience's quest for true love would be won (even if you didn't read the cover blurb, her last name changed), we rooted for her. Despite her penchant for Duran Duran, cheesy TV shows, junk food, and channeling her favorite romance heroines, she works hard, is nice, witty, and a loyal friend. She recognizes her own foibles and is generous in her treatment of her ex-boyfriends. Refreshingly, she doesn't tell too much. So, it's gratifying that, like any romance novel, this has its own happy ending.

  8. 4 out of 5

    Michelle

    "Romance is My Day Job: A Memoir of Finding Love at Last" is a fun delightful memoir mix blended with intrigue and possibilities of the romance novel. Patience Bloom, a Harlequin romance book editor, recalled that her ideals of the dashing he-man hero's: the dominant Alpha males, a stoic priest, an elegant French prince, didn't exactly measure up to the avoidant boyfriends in real life, but were the sources behind her storytelling and inspiration. By the time Bloom graduated from Oberlin College "Romance is My Day Job: A Memoir of Finding Love at Last" is a fun delightful memoir mix blended with intrigue and possibilities of the romance novel. Patience Bloom, a Harlequin romance book editor, recalled that her ideals of the dashing he-man hero's: the dominant Alpha males, a stoic priest, an elegant French prince, didn't exactly measure up to the avoidant boyfriends in real life, but were the sources behind her storytelling and inspiration. By the time Bloom graduated from Oberlin College in 1991, the romance with her bad-boy, chain smoking boyfriend Craig had ended after she spent too much time tortured in the Oberlin basement library, comforted by thoughts of father Ralph from the "Thorn Birds" (1983). Following college, Bloom decided to move near Cleveland, OH, inspired by the movie "Working Girl" (1988). Supporting herself with lower paying jobs, Bloom was a victim of a violent crime. The details of the incident, her recovery, weren't a focus of the book, and mentioned briefly. Needing a better life, she accepted a position teaching French at a private school in New Mexico. Bloom earned her master's degree, after dating non-committal cyclists, she observed: "the morality of the story is that tortured love isn't all bad as long as you have a hobby." Romance novels kept her going during the dating dry spells. When Bloom began to work in publishing after moving to Manhattan, she was able to reconnect with her loving supportive family, and Sam, who she remembered from prep school. Their online relationship immediately took off (Sam lived in Israel at the time): (from the book) " A relationship over a computer puts us in this stagnet fantasy place. I present my best self in every encounter, which is easy when you're separated by thousands of miles. He doesn't see me remove my make-up or get into my polar bear pajamas." Bloom also explored the complexities of blended family relationships, also her relationship with her uninvolved father, who made a heartless decision. Sam also had an ex-wife: (from the book) "The ex-wife is always a problem. My mother is an ex-wife and she's been a ghost in my father's second marriage. In romance novels the ex is usually pernicious or dead." All the challenges and exciting changes were navigated with Bloom's charming cheerful style, attitude and positive outlook. A reader doesn't have to be a fan of romance novels to appreciate this marvelous book! Bloom lives in Manhattan, N.Y. with her husband.

  9. 4 out of 5

    Alan

    Quick version. I really loved the book. Read it in one interrupted sitting. Patience is an editor at Harlequin. Her romantic life was not doing well. Mr. Right was not appearing. She was 41. Out of the blue, Sam Bloom, who she sort of knew from high school contacted her on Facebook. True Love. OK, the long version. What am I doing up at 6AM writing a review. Well, I had just kicked the winning goal. The fans were screaming. "OW". My wife should be thankful I had just cut my toenails. Anyway, I wa Quick version. I really loved the book. Read it in one interrupted sitting. Patience is an editor at Harlequin. Her romantic life was not doing well. Mr. Right was not appearing. She was 41. Out of the blue, Sam Bloom, who she sort of knew from high school contacted her on Facebook. True Love. OK, the long version. What am I doing up at 6AM writing a review. Well, I had just kicked the winning goal. The fans were screaming. "OW". My wife should be thankful I had just cut my toenails. Anyway, I was awake and started thinking about writing a review of Patience's book, that, as mentioned above, I had finished in one sitting (interrupted by a 2 hour board meeting). I don't read romance. Harlequin is anathema. OK, I read Diana Gabaldon, but that's for the historical story and a little for the fantasy. She could make the books 200 pages shorter by cutting out the sex. Patience is someone who I know from her teaching days in Albuquerque and, although she was there many years later, a fellow Oberlin grad. So as a facebook friend, I had followed her romance with Sam in real time. When she let us know she was writing a book about it, all of us were excited for her. Now, I'm a little compulsive about how I read. A book goes into the right side of the stack of 100 books which meanders across 3 or 4 shelves in the bedroom and comes out the left side of the stack and gets read, in order. When I was working, it might take 2 1/2 years for a book to surface. Since retirement, it's down to about 14months. Yesterday, I made the mistake of reading one page of Romance Is My Day Job at about 5PM. I had to break for a board meeting at 7 for 2 hours and got home and finished the book at 11:30. I loved it. Heartwarming, funny, well written, and it avoided the Too Much Information problem of many books. I very rarely stop reading a book once I start, in part because my book choices are discriminating. I have read books by friends and acquaintances previously and have stopped, saying "I don't need to put myself through this." I can guarantee that won't happen with Patience's book. I just want to know who is going to play Patience in the movie. I really don't think that either Julia or Sandra would be an appropriate fit, Patience. Will Lou play herself? Cheers

  10. 4 out of 5

    Betty Pickard

    Delightful. I thought this book would be fluff, but not so. This reads as a journal, diary, memoir of a young woman from Prep School to middle age searching for "Mr. Right". She is heartbroken, consoles herself with cheeseburgers, snickers, romance novels, romantic movies, knitting tranquilizers and family. Her friends and family lend a listening ear. Patience is a romantic at heart, but has the good sense to pass relationships that are not true ones. She moves on in her journey, sometimes liter Delightful. I thought this book would be fluff, but not so. This reads as a journal, diary, memoir of a young woman from Prep School to middle age searching for "Mr. Right". She is heartbroken, consoles herself with cheeseburgers, snickers, romance novels, romantic movies, knitting tranquilizers and family. Her friends and family lend a listening ear. Patience is a romantic at heart, but has the good sense to pass relationships that are not true ones. She moves on in her journey, sometimes literally to new places to live and work...Paris, Albuquerque, New York City. Romantic, resilient, compassionate, honest is the way I see her. Having been single 13 years of my adult life, I empathize with her situations and emotions. My only criticism is the book ran a little long at the end. It seemed she told us her misgivings and emotional state more than once using different words. I will say that I hated to see the book come to and end, though. It was like loosing a friendship.

  11. 5 out of 5

    Joy Matteson

    I wish I could say only positive things about this book--Patience Bloom is funny, she works in the book world, her memoir demonstrates that she can tell the difference between Harlequin romance and real life romance. But I can't. With memoirs, I suppose my standards are set pretty high--I'm often hoping for self reflective understandings of one's past in relating it to the present. This seemed to be a rehashing of melodramatic boy crushes, an admittedly hilarious comparison between Harlequin her I wish I could say only positive things about this book--Patience Bloom is funny, she works in the book world, her memoir demonstrates that she can tell the difference between Harlequin romance and real life romance. But I can't. With memoirs, I suppose my standards are set pretty high--I'm often hoping for self reflective understandings of one's past in relating it to the present. This seemed to be a rehashing of melodramatic boy crushes, an admittedly hilarious comparison between Harlequin heroes and real life online dating profiles, and an ending that wrapped up her love life in a pretty little bow when she married her man. But what about real life after the honeymoon, and understanding romance (read: infatuation) beyond her wedding day? Nope. Not here. I'm sure this book will appeal to Harlequin romance readers, but not many others. Can't recommend.

  12. 5 out of 5

    Niki

    I might be totally biased because Patience is my cubicle-mate at work but I LOVED this book and her story. Currently in love with her and her husband.

  13. 4 out of 5

    Meagan

    There are a lot of things I like about this book. The author is a long-time romance reader and peppers the book with little nods and affectionate jabs at the genre. (Her imaginary romance heroine is named Faun and lives in Taliashire. I laughed out loud at Taliashire.) She also gives little inside glimpses at what it's like to be an editor at Harlequin. I'm sure it's not all fun and games, but I think it would be an awesome job. The most impressive thing, for me, was how clear-eyed her descripti There are a lot of things I like about this book. The author is a long-time romance reader and peppers the book with little nods and affectionate jabs at the genre. (Her imaginary romance heroine is named Faun and lives in Taliashire. I laughed out loud at Taliashire.) She also gives little inside glimpses at what it's like to be an editor at Harlequin. I'm sure it's not all fun and games, but I think it would be an awesome job. The most impressive thing, for me, was how clear-eyed her descriptions of people were. Sometimes when I read memoirs it's hard not to wonder if the author is using the opportunity to get their side of the story on record and perhaps to make a bit of sport at their enemies. Normal human behavior, I think. And Patience Bloom might do a bit of that, but I never got the impression she was out to make anyone look bad. She was very generous with everyone, always took responsibility for her own bad or stupid actions, and I think she was very clear that this book was her side of the story, but there's never only one side. Which brings me to Patience Bloom herself. She sounds like a real person here. Like most of us, especially when we're young, she dated bad prospects and did stupid things and made bad choices. And she doesn't try to justify any of it, or hide it in any way. She almost celebrates it, crafting an adolescent's vision of her epic romance out of what is clearly a relationship with a self-destructive user. She's honest about how she felt then, while also being honest about what she knows now. All with generous sympathy for her exes. It's light, and it's funny. A great choice for romance readers.

  14. 4 out of 5

    Jill Kemerer

    This is a very special book. I got sucked into the first chapter, and I stayed up WAY too late reading it. I could tell you to read it because the author is real and funny and a talented writer--all are true. However, the reason I enjoyed it so much is because this woman gets me, the romance-novel obsessed, constantly reading, not ashamed to admit I truly enjoy rag-mags and reality television me. I still have favorite Harlequin novels I read in high school. Wish I could get my hands on a few I g This is a very special book. I got sucked into the first chapter, and I stayed up WAY too late reading it. I could tell you to read it because the author is real and funny and a talented writer--all are true. However, the reason I enjoyed it so much is because this woman gets me, the romance-novel obsessed, constantly reading, not ashamed to admit I truly enjoy rag-mags and reality television me. I still have favorite Harlequin novels I read in high school. Wish I could get my hands on a few I gave away. My favorite books are paperback romance novels, and I'm not afraid to admit it! Neither is the author. Her story captivated me up until the end when I smiled and just sat with that glowing feeling. And now I'm sad it's over. Wonderful read!!

  15. 5 out of 5

    Trenchologist

    Another that I think I came by because it was snagged at the dollar store. The just-read-it challenge marches on. 2+ I liked the beginning. I liked how it ended. I lost connection in the middle. It's interesting to me that an editor would have a book with such uneven structure and pacing, and plodding prose. Solid opener, doldrums that get muddy, and then as it rounds for home it drags where it should soar. After she reacquaints with and then starts dating Sam things should speed up, but there's so Another that I think I came by because it was snagged at the dollar store. The just-read-it challenge marches on. 2+ I liked the beginning. I liked how it ended. I lost connection in the middle. It's interesting to me that an editor would have a book with such uneven structure and pacing, and plodding prose. Solid opener, doldrums that get muddy, and then as it rounds for home it drags where it should soar. After she reacquaints with and then starts dating Sam things should speed up, but there's so much returning to her Bit with romance heroine comparison and what-iffing, and then so much minutia, and too little lifting to encompass Them or More, that it gets bogged down. Dear editor: so much tell herein, and so very little show. Part of me was distracted by knowing too much about her day job. And thinking, concurrent to her events but not about them really, boy was she lucky to get her foot in the door when she did, because the past several years have not been as lucrative or kind to the biz. That oh well RT is defunct, as after reading this I'd eye passing redheads' name badges in the hall. [Y'all don't really want nitty-gritty on the actual day job, though, much as you might think you do. It'd fill 300 pages even less ably.] I also kept thinking how much I enjoy romance novels and turn to them for comfort but I bet we don't have the same tastes. Few of the heroines (from movies or tv shows or books) are who I relate to or even know, so I was going 'meh, them' or felt lost. I didn't like 'eat pray love' or many other books she enthused about as being her navigating stars through life; which, no problem, but I set me at a remove to her needs and mindset and motivations, when what she was trying to do was bring us closer with the heavy use of allusion. And all that allusion as device-- I laughed at the scenarios of the boilerplate romance novel for her at 15. I liked the detail and wit of that first chapter. But that hook became a barb midway through, an irritant. It worked for a swooning 15 year old. A forty-something, not so much. She never seized the book to be as her own fully realized heroine in the end, which I waited and hoped for. It's a short book that I skimmed in some places and still felt long. There's plenty of hash but not a lot of substance. Tantalizing glimpses (friendships, starting and restarting on her own in several places, family strife and family healing), but she just kept returning to her safe zone of "what romance novel is this like?" bit, glossing over the rest while wringing the verve from the bit. She was lucky in a lot of ways; a lot of privilege and opportunities that are explained as "scholarship" or get hand-waved as nice-but-totally-mundane-no-really. I'm not saying she didn't work hard, or endure her own struggles, but I am saying not everyone has Paris as a soft place to land when things get too difficult at Oberlin. There's a whiff of snobbery and fat shaming and other things. She often comes across as naive, sheltered, and in the middle of her muddle of men, a whole lot goes her way. She's desperate for connections and validation, all through the lens of by-a-man. She stayed too strictly to the conceit "this is a book about dating and finding Mr Right" to give us a breather of where else she found connections and validation before she got there, but wanted us to sense the rollicking, overflowing cup of friends and family she had at her wedding as life became whole. I hope she got help beyond 'time and ignoring it' for the biggest trauma she fought through. But I'm not quite sure what this memoir wanted to be; I do sense it could get published because when you know people, you know people. Big things were mentioned but not delved into, but those big things weren't related to ~romance, so maybe I should know by dint of that they weren't going to get much coverage. By contrast the romances should have done the navel gazing but they didn't really. More it was pinballing from place to place, relationship to relationship, and a lot of details on bothering with blowout hairdos and justifying comfort food eating and comparing real estate. She's neurotic and fixative but not in any endearing played for humor ways; it's bad neurosis and coping mechanisms all the way down. Including terrible choices in men and behaviors in snagging terrible men. I think I'm trying to pinpoint something that nagged me the whole read, and that was I couldn't be certain of Bloom's voice. I never found its groove. Sometimes I thought oh, that's an obvious self-deprecating witticism there, sarcasm, etc. But then I wasn't sure. It wasn't always clear or fell flat, and so I couldn't read it face value or with a chuckle or even as sincerity. Another where I say-- this would probably be a fine blog. And a fun person at a party. But for me the translation to on the page was 'not quite.' There are definitely people who WANT to be married, want to be with a companion, and life is not fulfilled unless that happens. Bloom is certainly among them. That's fine! But all the times she tried to be 'just herself' was an exercise in futility that she seemed content to torpedo. First with self-destructive non-attempts to be alone and then with terrible men because at least it's not alone. We all make mistakes, we all grit our way through things, and Bloom was brave enough to share them. Not fully to her credit, is my estimation. In the end I'm glad she's not alone and glad she's with a great guy. But I needed more for how she got there to invest and care.

  16. 5 out of 5

    Monica Tomasello

    I really enjoyed this book! The beginning didn't grab me, but I kept going and got caught up in it. I loved the book and movie references, many of which were familiar to me, and the way Patience related them to her life and her story. It was neat that one of the books she specifically referenced many times was one that I had just recently read, though it's not a new book. I really enjoyed this book! The beginning didn't grab me, but I kept going and got caught up in it. I loved the book and movie references, many of which were familiar to me, and the way Patience related them to her life and her story. It was neat that one of the books she specifically referenced many times was one that I had just recently read, though it's not a new book.

  17. 4 out of 5

    Vivian

    I LOVED THIS BOOK. I feel like I've been out of the romance genre and falling more in auto-biography these days. What I love about this book is how I could relate to Patience in terms of dating. I think the 20s is a confusing time, trying to figure out your career path, love life, etc. I love that this book told me that things are going to be okay even when it does not seem like it. Patience had her own experience with the dating apps and trying to figure romance out but in the end it found her. I LOVED THIS BOOK. I feel like I've been out of the romance genre and falling more in auto-biography these days. What I love about this book is how I could relate to Patience in terms of dating. I think the 20s is a confusing time, trying to figure out your career path, love life, etc. I love that this book told me that things are going to be okay even when it does not seem like it. Patience had her own experience with the dating apps and trying to figure romance out but in the end it found her. I could also relate to her career search experience since I went through a contract role myself and now in another position but I think there's another field and industry out there. Though this book was very wholesome and light to read for the most part, Patience did write briefly about an incident that happened when she was younger. It's sad to hear that these things happen and I think it was brave of her and any others who may have experienced what she did to come out about it. Though I am fortunate to not have been put in the same situation, I think this a great book for women to read to make it feel like you're not alone. Whether that be alone in finding your partner, alone in finding the best job or alone when it comes to dealing with rape. I'm so happy to have stumbled across this book and just like says in her name, I shall wait patiently for my life to come together.

  18. 5 out of 5

    Batgirl13

    This audiobook took a little while to get going for me. Once it hooked me, I was finding excuses to be in the car so I could listen to the rest of it. I think near the end I went through two CDs in a day. Patience Bloom has had a rough time with romance for most of her life. She decides to give up on men and focus on her awesome job editing romance novels and then in walks her prince charming...maybe. There are some situations in this book that might be uncomfortable for people who have survived This audiobook took a little while to get going for me. Once it hooked me, I was finding excuses to be in the car so I could listen to the rest of it. I think near the end I went through two CDs in a day. Patience Bloom has had a rough time with romance for most of her life. She decides to give up on men and focus on her awesome job editing romance novels and then in walks her prince charming...maybe. There are some situations in this book that might be uncomfortable for people who have survived violent crimes/abusive relationships. At times, the novel seemed a bit too forced, but most of it was relatable and fun. I really liked the comparisons to the romance novels even though I hadn't read most of them. There was a list toward the middle where she compared boyfriends to novels and it was fun. I am glad I did this as audio because the beginning was a bit slow and I might have given up on it if I had been reading it. I would definitely check out another book from this author in the future.

  19. 4 out of 5

    Anne

    A frothy memoir written by an editor at Harlequin romance. The first two thirds of the book are filled with fun comparisons to literary romance beaus, both those we know (Mr. Darcy) and those made up by Mrs. Bloom based on the romance novel trends of the time. The last third, where she meets her now husband, didn't appeal to me as much. I know it's a true story, but after all the froth of her online dating, finally finding her beau, a short engagement, and her friends rallying around to find her A frothy memoir written by an editor at Harlequin romance. The first two thirds of the book are filled with fun comparisons to literary romance beaus, both those we know (Mr. Darcy) and those made up by Mrs. Bloom based on the romance novel trends of the time. The last third, where she meets her now husband, didn't appeal to me as much. I know it's a true story, but after all the froth of her online dating, finally finding her beau, a short engagement, and her friends rallying around to find her the venue and dress of her dreams, I had (in romance fantasy world) rooted for a reconciliation with her father. The book was written in that far over the top manner, that you could see it happening. Additionally, what she viewed as a 'cute' interaction with her hairdresser on the morning of her wedding, I found distasteful and vulgar. I kind of wish the book had ended at her meeting Sam in person and then had a tiny epilogue (10 months later we married) and been complete.

  20. 5 out of 5

    Aliza Ali

    Spoilers Ahead! A lot of reviews of this book reflect my personal feelings about this book -- but I don't judge a person based on mistakes they made in their lives -- that's just unfair. The way they felt and reacted are, in my opinion, valid. I think Bloom should be likable in this book, but isn't, because she's her won worst enemy for most of it. I am elated that she found love -- but the journey was not sweet, rather gruesome and hard to follow. My rating of Bloom has nothing to do with her st Spoilers Ahead! A lot of reviews of this book reflect my personal feelings about this book -- but I don't judge a person based on mistakes they made in their lives -- that's just unfair. The way they felt and reacted are, in my opinion, valid. I think Bloom should be likable in this book, but isn't, because she's her won worst enemy for most of it. I am elated that she found love -- but the journey was not sweet, rather gruesome and hard to follow. My rating of Bloom has nothing to do with her story -- everyone has their own stories and makes their own mistakes, we shouldn't dislike them for their story (excluding some extremes, which should go without saying). My 3-star rating actually due to her writing style which, unfortunately, isn't fun and engaging but rather sometimes pedantic and sometimes erratic. For example, her comparison of her dates to novel "heroes" feel forced, like she HAD to compare her life to a romance novel because she is so invested in the novels. I wanted to love this book, as I am an avid romance reader but I just couldn't invest into her style of writing.

  21. 5 out of 5

    Bella

    DNF. Patience Bloom's rather serious memoir, as told through the lens of her romantic relationships. The first third doesn't contain any meta analysis of the societal belief that women should value themselves only through their relationships, even though that's what Patience is doing. It covers her first relationships as a teenager, an extremely unhealthy relationship at college, a relationship with someone into S&M, a relationship with a nice but boring man, refers to an assault in her early 20s, DNF. Patience Bloom's rather serious memoir, as told through the lens of her romantic relationships. The first third doesn't contain any meta analysis of the societal belief that women should value themselves only through their relationships, even though that's what Patience is doing. It covers her first relationships as a teenager, an extremely unhealthy relationship at college, a relationship with someone into S&M, a relationship with a nice but boring man, refers to an assault in her early 20s, and then some more relationships. There are little bits about not being interested in college, and about her various temp jobs.

  22. 5 out of 5

    Aimee Ertley

    This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers. To view it, click here. I thoroughly enjoyed this story; Patience's journey of finding love and her happily ever after. I totally rooted for her, and found myself laughing out loud as she described the various frogs she kissed before she re-encountered Prince Charming, the same boy who rescued her at a dance in high school. It's an easy read, like a conversation with one of your girlfriends. Patience and I have similar taste in movies, and I give bonus points to this book for multiple mentions of Jane Austen, Colin Fir I thoroughly enjoyed this story; Patience's journey of finding love and her happily ever after. I totally rooted for her, and found myself laughing out loud as she described the various frogs she kissed before she re-encountered Prince Charming, the same boy who rescued her at a dance in high school. It's an easy read, like a conversation with one of your girlfriends. Patience and I have similar taste in movies, and I give bonus points to this book for multiple mentions of Jane Austen, Colin Firth, and Duran Duran. ;)

  23. 4 out of 5

    Ellen

    Patience spent a lot of her time looking for love in all the wrong places. How many of us hasn't done this? We travel with her and watch out for her from her childhood in Connecticut on to New Mexico then to France and finally to the city that never sleeps, NYC. We live vicariously through her exploits the frustrations of trying to find her true love using Harlequin books as her guide. Did I mention she is an editor for Harlequin? Patience spent a lot of her time looking for love in all the wrong places. How many of us hasn't done this? We travel with her and watch out for her from her childhood in Connecticut on to New Mexico then to France and finally to the city that never sleeps, NYC. We live vicariously through her exploits the frustrations of trying to find her true love using Harlequin books as her guide. Did I mention she is an editor for Harlequin?

  24. 4 out of 5

    Courtney Johnson

    I really expected more out of this book. All we hear about her life is comparing past boyfriends to fictional characters. I wanted her to flesh out her job more, and her friends. I felt like the only thing in her life was looking for a husband. The way the story was written didn't really grab my attention either. She was just telling us here's what happened and not showing any details or letting us dive into the story. I really expected more out of this book. All we hear about her life is comparing past boyfriends to fictional characters. I wanted her to flesh out her job more, and her friends. I felt like the only thing in her life was looking for a husband. The way the story was written didn't really grab my attention either. She was just telling us here's what happened and not showing any details or letting us dive into the story.

  25. 4 out of 5

    Michele Hayes

    Patience began reading romance novels in high school. She dreamed of being in a relationship that mirrored the heroines she read about daily. She even became an editor of Harlequin novels. But, sadly, all of her relationships were flops. Finally, at age 41, she gave up on romance. She was destined to live alone and she was okay with it. Until she got a FB message from a boy she slightly knew in high school. Could he be the one? A fun read.

  26. 5 out of 5

    Mel

    I liked it. The author's path to matrimony is so different from mine, but I think Patience and my sister Kate are twins who were separated at birth. Even with our differences I was pulled into her story. I was baffled, amused and saddened by this heartfelt memoir but the sweetest thing is that it got me thinking back to my own teenage years with cheery fondness. I liked it. The author's path to matrimony is so different from mine, but I think Patience and my sister Kate are twins who were separated at birth. Even with our differences I was pulled into her story. I was baffled, amused and saddened by this heartfelt memoir but the sweetest thing is that it got me thinking back to my own teenage years with cheery fondness.

  27. 5 out of 5

    Cassandra

    This was a random selection at the library. The cover caught my eye when I was browsing the biography section. I gave it an honest try, reading the first 63 pages. But I wanted to reach through the book and smack the author for her continual self-destructive behavior. And I just couldn't get over the author's extremely choppy writing style. Back to the library it goes. This was a random selection at the library. The cover caught my eye when I was browsing the biography section. I gave it an honest try, reading the first 63 pages. But I wanted to reach through the book and smack the author for her continual self-destructive behavior. And I just couldn't get over the author's extremely choppy writing style. Back to the library it goes.

  28. 5 out of 5

    Alice

    Fun story about finding love at long last. The Author describes her love with Romance Novels and compares them to her own search for true love. At times funny, sometimes sad, she shares her search for Mr. Right and how she finds a job in the Publishing Industry editing Romance Novels.

  29. 5 out of 5

    Cynthia

    I enjoyed this quick-read memoir of a romantic, neurotic young woman who finally lands and marries Mr. Right and lives happily ever after. I laughed out loud several times, my water mark of a good story these days.

  30. 4 out of 5

    Diana

    I thoroughly enjoyed this memoir. It was sweet, funny, sad and ultimately happy.

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