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How far is too far? What does the Bible say about sexuality? How can I have a legit dating relationship? Considering the sex-crazed, hook-up based culture we live in--not to mention the ever-climbing divorce rate--it's clear that we need a better understanding of sex, dating, and relationships. Pastors Gerald Hiestand and Jay Thomas give us a paradigm-shifting view of purit How far is too far? What does the Bible say about sexuality? How can I have a legit dating relationship? Considering the sex-crazed, hook-up based culture we live in--not to mention the ever-climbing divorce rate--it's clear that we need a better understanding of sex, dating, and relationships. Pastors Gerald Hiestand and Jay Thomas give us a paradigm-shifting view of purity and relationships--a view that accounts for the biblical evidence and helps us guard against unnecessary heartache. Sex, Dating, and Relationships adds a new, almost provocative voice to the conversation that pleads with Christians to get serious about honoring Christ with their sexuality. The question is: Are you ready for the challenge?


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How far is too far? What does the Bible say about sexuality? How can I have a legit dating relationship? Considering the sex-crazed, hook-up based culture we live in--not to mention the ever-climbing divorce rate--it's clear that we need a better understanding of sex, dating, and relationships. Pastors Gerald Hiestand and Jay Thomas give us a paradigm-shifting view of purit How far is too far? What does the Bible say about sexuality? How can I have a legit dating relationship? Considering the sex-crazed, hook-up based culture we live in--not to mention the ever-climbing divorce rate--it's clear that we need a better understanding of sex, dating, and relationships. Pastors Gerald Hiestand and Jay Thomas give us a paradigm-shifting view of purity and relationships--a view that accounts for the biblical evidence and helps us guard against unnecessary heartache. Sex, Dating, and Relationships adds a new, almost provocative voice to the conversation that pleads with Christians to get serious about honoring Christ with their sexuality. The question is: Are you ready for the challenge?

30 review for Sex, Dating, And Relationships: A Fresh Approach

  1. 5 out of 5

    Josiah

    I've read several books before on dating/courtship/whatever-you-want-to-call-it. This book beats them all. Pros: I love how this book starts investigating this topic by going right to the Bible and founding the entire discussion in the Gospel. Too many other authors that I've read seem to start their discussion and reasoning on this topic based off of personal anecdotes, or slippery-slope arguments. To have a book start with the Bible and looking at the point of marriage first is a refreshing pers I've read several books before on dating/courtship/whatever-you-want-to-call-it. This book beats them all. Pros: I love how this book starts investigating this topic by going right to the Bible and founding the entire discussion in the Gospel. Too many other authors that I've read seem to start their discussion and reasoning on this topic based off of personal anecdotes, or slippery-slope arguments. To have a book start with the Bible and looking at the point of marriage first is a refreshing perspective in a very crowded field of perspectives on this topic. Coming off of the first point, I really appreciated how the authors tried to ground their advice in the Bible as much as possible. While I was a bit skeptical at first of their claim that the Bible says more about this than we think, I was won over by the end of the book. Their central point of relationships--that there are only three kinds of relationships in the Bible (marriage, family, neighbor), and that while some things change over time, you can't just add a whole new category of relationship--was excellent and completely transformed my whole paradigm of thinking on this issue. This book kind of defies categories in the whole dating/courtship debate. The best way I see of describing it is that it has many of the standards of courtship, but the form of dating. In my opinion, this middle route does a great job of mediating the natural problems of either side (the lack of focus in dating, the excessive formality of courtship; not that those in those camps necessarily fall into those problems, but that often they have those leanings). Finally, Hiestand and Thomas' points of commitment and how there really is no commitment until engagement were really good. It became somewhat repetitious at this point, but the message was driven home. And while I don't agree with all of the practical applications they tried to drive with this (while their argument for why dating isn't exclusive sounded alright in theory, I can't see it working in practice) the general principle here was really on-target. Cons: While I appreciated the fact that the book didn't rely on personal anecdotes and stories, it would have been nice if they had some of them in order to give some pictures of what their theories look like in practice. Overall: It's hard to list all the different things about this book that I liked since this book has fundamentally changed the way I think about relationships. This is easily one of the best books I read last year, and one that I heartily recommend for this topic, both for all the biblical support they give, and for their unique ideas that accurately portray the problems in the modern dating/courting sphere. 5 stars.

  2. 4 out of 5

    Rachel Schultz

    I am hesitant to say a critique because the book is very good but I have to say that I was shocked by their disappointing brief section on masturbation which I found soft and out of line with all of the (good! accurate!) things they said in the preceding chapters about the point of any sexuality to be to model the unity of christ and the church. And also, there were just a few stray sentences that were bad. For these reasons I took off a star, but many sections, and the main concepts of the book I am hesitant to say a critique because the book is very good but I have to say that I was shocked by their disappointing brief section on masturbation which I found soft and out of line with all of the (good! accurate!) things they said in the preceding chapters about the point of any sexuality to be to model the unity of christ and the church. And also, there were just a few stray sentences that were bad. For these reasons I took off a star, but many sections, and the main concepts of the book are five star and v helpful. While I would counsel every individual to their diverse personality, needs, and the person of interest, I will certainly use explanations from this book to guide my children or other singles I have relationships with.

  3. 5 out of 5

    ♥ Ibrahim ♥

    Sex! In the church they keep talking to you about how horrible it is to have sex outside marriage. It is called "the sin"! They start out with inhibitions! A homeless woman told me she abstains from casual sex because she chooses not to sell her soul. Yes, it is about your soul, giving away what is an integral part of who you are. But sex is not evil; it is just like electricity to me; a massive power that has to be directed in its proper place and never used casually. Terrifying people about se Sex! In the church they keep talking to you about how horrible it is to have sex outside marriage. It is called "the sin"! They start out with inhibitions! A homeless woman told me she abstains from casual sex because she chooses not to sell her soul. Yes, it is about your soul, giving away what is an integral part of who you are. But sex is not evil; it is just like electricity to me; a massive power that has to be directed in its proper place and never used casually. Terrifying people about sex can cause them to be sex maniacs!

  4. 4 out of 5

    Rosemary

    A very helpful book and overall I found it a refreshing, clarifying, and encouraging look at the topic. The call to a higher standard of Gospel centered sexual purity in every stage of life was convicting and inspiring. It takes a lot to intimidate me, but this book came across pretty strong handed. Maybe it's just the rebel streak in me, but even though I found myself generally agreeing with the authors', the way they presented their case made it a bit hard to swallow. The last few chapters wer A very helpful book and overall I found it a refreshing, clarifying, and encouraging look at the topic. The call to a higher standard of Gospel centered sexual purity in every stage of life was convicting and inspiring. It takes a lot to intimidate me, but this book came across pretty strong handed. Maybe it's just the rebel streak in me, but even though I found myself generally agreeing with the authors', the way they presented their case made it a bit hard to swallow. The last few chapters were a head above the rest of the book in clarity, encouragement, and practical advice; but I guess you needed the ground work of the rest of the book for them to have their full effect. I would definitely recommend this to friends!

  5. 4 out of 5

    Leandro Dutra

    First really good thing I have read since Walter Trobisch, in some aspects even better for being based on the Reformed worldview, and specifically on the idea that all of life is related to the gospel. Not as geared to youngsters as Trobisch, I hope it spawms other works for teenagers, for girls, for parents.

  6. 5 out of 5

    Katie Beavers

    One of the best Christian books I’ve read. Well organized and incredibly Gospel centered. I feel like I want to just buy a dozen or so copies and give them to everyone in my life. Cannot recommend it enough.

  7. 4 out of 5

    Danette

    Excellent!! Hiestand and Thomas give us a gospel-centered way to look at dating and challenge us to depart from the culture's ways and live a Christ-exalting life of purity. A must-read for teens and young adults and their parents. "So if you find the road too long, then rest assured you have found the right road. With mankind, this journey is impossible, but with God, all things are possible. He remembers our frame, that we are but dust. His mercy and grace are sufficient for our failures along Excellent!! Hiestand and Thomas give us a gospel-centered way to look at dating and challenge us to depart from the culture's ways and live a Christ-exalting life of purity. A must-read for teens and young adults and their parents. "So if you find the road too long, then rest assured you have found the right road. With mankind, this journey is impossible, but with God, all things are possible. He remembers our frame, that we are but dust. His mercy and grace are sufficient for our failures along the way. Strive for the ideal with all your heart while affording yourself the same grace God has granted to you through Christ. And may we each keep our eyes on his face rather than on our own stumbling, and press on toward the goal of God's ideal. For the believer, the battle is already won; it merely remains to be fought!" 2020 A book about relationships or friendship

  8. 5 out of 5

    Shantelle

    5 stars, with caution. Does that make sense? *laughs* I loved this book and many of the ideas presented, but I would read it with discretion. I don't necessarily agree with everything. Regardless, it's another great resource to get us thinking seriously about sexuality, holiness, relationships, and marriage! So, especially if you are a single Christian, I would recommend picking up a copy of "Sex, Dating, and Relationships: A Fresh Approach, and giving some thought and prayer to what Gerald Hies 5 stars, with caution. Does that make sense? *laughs* I loved this book and many of the ideas presented, but I would read it with discretion. I don't necessarily agree with everything. Regardless, it's another great resource to get us thinking seriously about sexuality, holiness, relationships, and marriage! So, especially if you are a single Christian, I would recommend picking up a copy of "Sex, Dating, and Relationships: A Fresh Approach, and giving some thought and prayer to what Gerald Hiestand and Jay S. Thomas have to say!

  9. 4 out of 5

    Eric Durso

    I wish every teen in my church would read this. So good.

  10. 5 out of 5

    Isaac Busby

    This has done exactly what it was intended to do. Maybe I would apply a few things differently, but the authors freshly and objectively considered the biblical categories of relationships without cultural bias. Not just another cliche Christian dating book, it shifts the whole understanding and process of dating to more biblically informed categories of relationships. I would recommend this to any Christian. It’s short enough, and we’re all heavily impacted by the dating culture whether we’re dat This has done exactly what it was intended to do. Maybe I would apply a few things differently, but the authors freshly and objectively considered the biblical categories of relationships without cultural bias. Not just another cliche Christian dating book, it shifts the whole understanding and process of dating to more biblically informed categories of relationships. I would recommend this to any Christian. It’s short enough, and we’re all heavily impacted by the dating culture whether we’re dating, single, or married. If not even for yourself, this book is worth thinking through so that you can give good, biblical advice.

  11. 4 out of 5

    Clare S-B

    The thoughts and concepts were really good. The presentation was lacking. Words were not well defined... at all. Some application was very confusing because of it. Even so I can recommend it as a read because I think it has some great ideas and can at the least stimulate really good conversations and lines of thought. I'm glad I'm not in the dating world myself anymore but for friends that are I would recommend this book, but please don't take it as the bible and realize that it does have troubl The thoughts and concepts were really good. The presentation was lacking. Words were not well defined... at all. Some application was very confusing because of it. Even so I can recommend it as a read because I think it has some great ideas and can at the least stimulate really good conversations and lines of thought. I'm glad I'm not in the dating world myself anymore but for friends that are I would recommend this book, but please don't take it as the bible and realize that it does have trouble communicating some points well because of improperly defined words. And while there is no one size fits all as far as dating goes, this seems a pretty good approach to a God honouring way of dating.

  12. 4 out of 5

    Vincent Lemieux

    Simply excellent. Gospel-driven and Christ oriented. This book should be read by every adolescents, parents and pastors. The Bible is a lot more clear than we think about relationships between a man and a woman out of mariage. I highly recommend and pray that this will be in French soon.

  13. 4 out of 5

    John Majors

    Best book on the topic I've read. Most gospel centered and biblical in its approach. Best book on the topic I've read. Most gospel centered and biblical in its approach.

  14. 4 out of 5

    Sally

    An excellent book on this much debated topic. The whole premise is based around the belief that the Bible has 3 distinct relationship categories 1 Family 2 Neighbour 3 Marriage Obviously only 1 of these is appropriate for a christian to engage in sexual activity in. There is no other category so therefore you abstain from all sexual activity until you are married. Any activity that is sexual in anyway, ie you wouldn't do it with your sibling, is therefor not appropriate outside the context of marria An excellent book on this much debated topic. The whole premise is based around the belief that the Bible has 3 distinct relationship categories 1 Family 2 Neighbour 3 Marriage Obviously only 1 of these is appropriate for a christian to engage in sexual activity in. There is no other category so therefore you abstain from all sexual activity until you are married. Any activity that is sexual in anyway, ie you wouldn't do it with your sibling, is therefor not appropriate outside the context of marriage.

  15. 4 out of 5

    Ben Hartman

    Sex, Dating, and Relationships grounds its message in the Gospel, and shows how sex in marriage is a type of Christ and the Church. This is why sexual purity matters - sexual immorality disgraces the spiritual reality of union with Christ. The book advocates "Dating Friendships" instead of "Dating Relationships". Dating Relationships being a state of false commitment (boyfriend/girlfriend) and premature romantic and physical gestures (kissing, etc.) The book shows how the Bible speaks of only th Sex, Dating, and Relationships grounds its message in the Gospel, and shows how sex in marriage is a type of Christ and the Church. This is why sexual purity matters - sexual immorality disgraces the spiritual reality of union with Christ. The book advocates "Dating Friendships" instead of "Dating Relationships". Dating Relationships being a state of false commitment (boyfriend/girlfriend) and premature romantic and physical gestures (kissing, etc.) The book shows how the Bible speaks of only three proper relationship categories for men and women; family, neighbor, and marriage. There is no in-between category called dating where romance and sexual relations are carried on without commitment. Hiestand and Thomas argue that since marriage is the only proper category for sexual relations, those interested in marriage should pursue a spouse through "Dating Friendships," in which dating is an activity to get to know and evaluate a possible partner in light of possible marriage, rather than a separate relational category. This definition clears up a lot of the confusion around "dating," and emphasizes purity in what is still a "neighbor" relationship. There is a lot more that could be said about this book. It is possibly the best book I have read on the subject to date (pun intended). I heartily recommend this book both to singles and those who know one.

  16. 5 out of 5

    KC McCauley

    This book adequately covers its three topics on sex, dating, and relationships. In my reading so far, it’s been the best book to describe the connection between sex and the gospel. It explains deep theological truths in simple terms that are easy to understand, which provides the basic framework for the rest of the book. The subtitle stands true especially in regards to their teaching on dating, for it is a fresh approach that I found to be biblical. Although, since it is so different than our c This book adequately covers its three topics on sex, dating, and relationships. In my reading so far, it’s been the best book to describe the connection between sex and the gospel. It explains deep theological truths in simple terms that are easy to understand, which provides the basic framework for the rest of the book. The subtitle stands true especially in regards to their teaching on dating, for it is a fresh approach that I found to be biblical. Although, since it is so different than our culture’s view of dating, I would like to see a little more clarity and practical examples of how to have a “dating friendship” rather than a “dating relationship.” Overall, I found the book to be very helpful and insightful in a culture that’s completely confused about sex, dating, and relationships. I highly recommend it!

  17. 4 out of 5

    Brendan Murphy

    This is by far the best book I've read on approaching relationships from a biblical perspective. I've Josh Harri's books (Kissed Dating Goodbye, Boy Meets Girls), and another title "Soul Virgins". And while those were helpful, this book did a great job of really addressing the topic from a biblical principle perspective. It didn't get into the whole dating/courtship debate, but rather addressed what the bible says our conduct should be towards 1) our spouse, and 2) people not our spouse. And I t This is by far the best book I've read on approaching relationships from a biblical perspective. I've Josh Harri's books (Kissed Dating Goodbye, Boy Meets Girls), and another title "Soul Virgins". And while those were helpful, this book did a great job of really addressing the topic from a biblical principle perspective. It didn't get into the whole dating/courtship debate, but rather addressed what the bible says our conduct should be towards 1) our spouse, and 2) people not our spouse. And I think it did a great job of dealing with the whole concept of boyfriend/girlfriend that has developed in our culture today. I see this as an essential resource for parents with teens, and any single out there looking to honor God and the other person in a relationship.

  18. 4 out of 5

    Marden Zelaya

    Perfect reading for a new year's eve. I feel like now I have the true perspective of sex and relationships in my mind. Now I know what I should be looking for in this world where everything is sexualized. Now I understand my role in a relationship; now I understand God's purpose on my sexual life. Reviewing the book by context: it's very simple to follow. The way Gerald Hiestand and Jay Thomas explain the topics is fresh and reliable. Even if you have no idea about the gospel, the book is pretty Perfect reading for a new year's eve. I feel like now I have the true perspective of sex and relationships in my mind. Now I know what I should be looking for in this world where everything is sexualized. Now I understand my role in a relationship; now I understand God's purpose on my sexual life. Reviewing the book by context: it's very simple to follow. The way Gerald Hiestand and Jay Thomas explain the topics is fresh and reliable. Even if you have no idea about the gospel, the book is pretty self-explanatory regarding gospel ideals, and the overall approach is very straightforward. This book just wants you to be aware of what sex really means, and how you can make your sexual life a happy and safe state for your soul.

  19. 4 out of 5

    Ruth Baker

    Probably 3.5 but goodreads doesn't allow for nuance. Very clear and unequivocal without being legalistic. Really good biblical warrant for ideas expressed. The alternate dating position was naive. Overall a really good book providing a good basis for pre-marriage relationships in our modern culture. Probably 3.5 but goodreads doesn't allow for nuance. Very clear and unequivocal without being legalistic. Really good biblical warrant for ideas expressed. The alternate dating position was naive. Overall a really good book providing a good basis for pre-marriage relationships in our modern culture.

  20. 5 out of 5

    Brian Thornton

    Solid read... Finished it over a weekend. 1) don't eat at Cracker Barrel if you want to lose weight (avoid situations); 2) look at others as brothers and sisters; 3) sex is a Godly thing He has given. Solid read... Finished it over a weekend. 1) don't eat at Cracker Barrel if you want to lose weight (avoid situations); 2) look at others as brothers and sisters; 3) sex is a Godly thing He has given.

  21. 4 out of 5

    Bailey Wenger

    I am not someone who reads entire books in a day, but I did with this book! It is a great read about a biblical approach to dating -- not legalistic, but how to glorify God with your relationships. I've already recommended it to some friends! I am not someone who reads entire books in a day, but I did with this book! It is a great read about a biblical approach to dating -- not legalistic, but how to glorify God with your relationships. I've already recommended it to some friends!

  22. 5 out of 5

    Kara

    A must-read for all singles and parents of teens. Very thought provoking!!

  23. 5 out of 5

    Jonathan Crabb

    Great book which clearly articulates the Bible's view on sexuality and how it relates to dating. I really appreciate the authors' clarity Great book which clearly articulates the Bible's view on sexuality and how it relates to dating. I really appreciate the authors' clarity

  24. 5 out of 5

    Enzo Luigi

    Book review coming soon.

  25. 5 out of 5

    Hannah

    Highly recommended to anyone who is single or in a 'dating relationship'. This book sets the stage for a biblical 'dating friendship' that results in marriage. Highly recommended to anyone who is single or in a 'dating relationship'. This book sets the stage for a biblical 'dating friendship' that results in marriage.

  26. 5 out of 5

    Tyler Brown

    Not the book I'd recommend first to a dating couple or a young single. The authors have some good insights in the sections on the biblical theology of sex and marital intimacy as a picture of the gospel. However, they are far too black-and-white in the categories of biblical relationships. They ignore the passages on 'the betrothed' and this undercuts the whole of their family-neighbor-spouse category relationships, which is the foundation of most of the book. While much of the insight could aid Not the book I'd recommend first to a dating couple or a young single. The authors have some good insights in the sections on the biblical theology of sex and marital intimacy as a picture of the gospel. However, they are far too black-and-white in the categories of biblical relationships. They ignore the passages on 'the betrothed' and this undercuts the whole of their family-neighbor-spouse category relationships, which is the foundation of most of the book. While much of the insight could aid dating couples and young singles, the alternative offered in this book is not the most helpful. If you do recommend the book, keep in mind the very narrow target audience. Only Christian readers (who are convinced of the necessity of being equally yoked), who are single, haven't ruined their previous dating relationships, are old enough to be in a stage of life where marriage is an viable option, and are 100% on their desire to be married would benefit from this advice.

  27. 4 out of 5

    Matt Chapman

    Main point of application: ‘The bounds of the neighbour relationship are binding until marriage.’ A dating relationship cannot be ‘excluded from the biblical standard of absolute purity.’ ‘The Bible is silent about sexual boundaries within a dating relationship precisely because God does not view a dating relationship as something distinct from the neighbour relationship.’ The writers are not anti-dating but do want to make clear what God-honouring dating should and shouldn’t look like. Though I did Main point of application: ‘The bounds of the neighbour relationship are binding until marriage.’ A dating relationship cannot be ‘excluded from the biblical standard of absolute purity.’ ‘The Bible is silent about sexual boundaries within a dating relationship precisely because God does not view a dating relationship as something distinct from the neighbour relationship.’ The writers are not anti-dating but do want to make clear what God-honouring dating should and shouldn’t look like. Though I didn’t agree with a few of the more minor fine-detail points of application, the overarching principles in this book are excellent. It’s simple and clear, and each point of application is biblically argued. It also seems more careful than some books on this subject not to overstep the bounds of biblical teaching and descend into mere opinions or preferences. The book’s overarching message is very positive and presents a high and happy view of sex and marriage. Recommended!

  28. 4 out of 5

    Daniel

    A drop-dead excellent book on what types of behavior Christians are called to exhibit sexually. Very convicting, but this is a credit to the honesty of the book about scripture and the failings of people. Uses the Oxford Comma correctly in the title. This alone should indicate what a great book you're looking at here. A drop-dead excellent book on what types of behavior Christians are called to exhibit sexually. Very convicting, but this is a credit to the honesty of the book about scripture and the failings of people. Uses the Oxford Comma correctly in the title. This alone should indicate what a great book you're looking at here.

  29. 5 out of 5

    Jacob

    This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers. To view it, click here. Although this book may seem like a great group study experience, I found that it has mostly male perspectives where it’s logic is somewhat twisted because it often explains that the male is predominant in the relationship and that you shouldn’t have any “physical experiences” including kissing with your partner until marriage. That is a little unrealistic in my opinion.

  30. 4 out of 5

    Son Jackeel

    Finding, amazing, if you want to hookup with girls and get for a one-night stand. Where to go to meet beautiful single women near you? You’re not enough time to at LocalxDating.com, Most of them dating someone nearby area, many times have you gone out to the local bar or night club in the hopes of finding a lovely single lady that you could flirt with you. https://anniedbennett.wordpress.com/ Finding, amazing, if you want to hookup with girls and get for a one-night stand. Where to go to meet beautiful single women near you? You’re not enough time to at LocalxDating.com, Most of them dating someone nearby area, many times have you gone out to the local bar or night club in the hopes of finding a lovely single lady that you could flirt with you. https://anniedbennett.wordpress.com/

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