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From the famed author of the bestselling The Second Shift and The Time Bind, a pathbreaking look at the transformation of private life in our for-profit world The family has long been a haven in a heartless world, the one place immune to market forces and economic calculations, where the personal, the private, and the emotional hold sway. Yet as Arlie Russell Hochschild sho From the famed author of the bestselling The Second Shift and The Time Bind, a pathbreaking look at the transformation of private life in our for-profit world The family has long been a haven in a heartless world, the one place immune to market forces and economic calculations, where the personal, the private, and the emotional hold sway. Yet as Arlie Russell Hochschild shows in The Outsourced Self, that is no longer the case: everything that was once part of private life—love, friendship, child rearing—is being transformed into packaged expertise to be sold back to confused, harried Americans. Drawing on hundreds of interviews and original research, Hochschild follows the incursions of the market into every stage of intimate life. From dating services that train you to be the CEO of your love life to wedding planners who create a couple's "personal narrative"; from nameologists (who help you name your child) to wantologists (who help you name your goals); from commercial surrogate farms in India to hired mourners who will scatter your loved one's ashes in the ocean of your choice—Hochschild reveals a world in which the most intuitive and emotional of human acts have become work for hire. Sharp and clear-eyed, Hochschild is full of sympathy for overstressed, outsourcing Americans, even as she warns of the market's threat to the personal realm they are striving so hard to preserve.


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From the famed author of the bestselling The Second Shift and The Time Bind, a pathbreaking look at the transformation of private life in our for-profit world The family has long been a haven in a heartless world, the one place immune to market forces and economic calculations, where the personal, the private, and the emotional hold sway. Yet as Arlie Russell Hochschild sho From the famed author of the bestselling The Second Shift and The Time Bind, a pathbreaking look at the transformation of private life in our for-profit world The family has long been a haven in a heartless world, the one place immune to market forces and economic calculations, where the personal, the private, and the emotional hold sway. Yet as Arlie Russell Hochschild shows in The Outsourced Self, that is no longer the case: everything that was once part of private life—love, friendship, child rearing—is being transformed into packaged expertise to be sold back to confused, harried Americans. Drawing on hundreds of interviews and original research, Hochschild follows the incursions of the market into every stage of intimate life. From dating services that train you to be the CEO of your love life to wedding planners who create a couple's "personal narrative"; from nameologists (who help you name your child) to wantologists (who help you name your goals); from commercial surrogate farms in India to hired mourners who will scatter your loved one's ashes in the ocean of your choice—Hochschild reveals a world in which the most intuitive and emotional of human acts have become work for hire. Sharp and clear-eyed, Hochschild is full of sympathy for overstressed, outsourcing Americans, even as she warns of the market's threat to the personal realm they are striving so hard to preserve.

30 review for The Outsourced Self: Intimate Life in Market Times

  1. 4 out of 5

    Matthew

    This book had much that I was expecting (which is why I bought it) and some that I wasn't expecting (which is why I had to read it to know what it says), and omitted some of what I was looking for. I was looking for more of the universal outsourcing, but this book was mostly about wealthy people hiring middle class people to tend to luxuries. Outsourcing kids birthday party planning (and the disastrous daddy-done party by comparison), the wedding planner, the grandma-visitor, etc. are evidence This book had much that I was expecting (which is why I bought it) and some that I wasn't expecting (which is why I had to read it to know what it says), and omitted some of what I was looking for. I was looking for more of the universal outsourcing, but this book was mostly about wealthy people hiring middle class people to tend to luxuries. Outsourcing kids birthday party planning (and the disastrous daddy-done party by comparison), the wedding planner, the grandma-visitor, etc. are evidence of the detachment that too much money will buy. What I was hoping for was the more universal aspect of detaching ourselves from music, from love notes, from stories. We are embarrassed to sing because we don't sound like the highly autotuned voices of recording stars. We buy cards from Hallmark to say "I love you" or "My Condolences" and we just sign our names without risking a personal note that might not say things "just right." We have Disney telling our kids stories for a profit, that have no concern for the well-being of the child, the family, or the greater society. My students don't even know the standard and traditional kids' stories that have lasted centuries. How many know nothing of Jack and the Beanstalk, and only the Disney versions of mythology (Hercules), or history (Pocahontas), or foreign lands (Mulan and Alladin). So, this book was a quick read, brings up a minimal bit of criticism, and begins the conversation that should go so much further.

  2. 5 out of 5

    Jacqueline

    I've been a fan of Arlie Hochschild's sociological research for years. This book continued to be well-written for more than just an academic audience. I highly recommend it. For my longer review, you can see my blog post on it. http://jackofallbooks.wordpress.com/2... I've been a fan of Arlie Hochschild's sociological research for years. This book continued to be well-written for more than just an academic audience. I highly recommend it. For my longer review, you can see my blog post on it. http://jackofallbooks.wordpress.com/2...

  3. 5 out of 5

    Carmen

    I liked this book. Hochschild surveys the commercialization of intimate life, as the market plays an ever-larger role in how we go about dating, getting laid, marrying, parenting, caregiving, dying, etc. Spurred on by the advance of capitalism and the collapse of community, people increasingly seek market solutions to human problems. Hochschild asks: at what cost? I was most creeped out by the dating, dying, and surrogacy sections.

  4. 5 out of 5

    Susan

    It was an OK commute book. I think it doesn't go far enough and focused too much on trying to humanize "characters" so grouchy readers don't judge them. I didn't need that. Some parts of this will definitely make you laugh at people in a good way and some might remind you why you don't like people. It was an OK commute book. I think it doesn't go far enough and focused too much on trying to humanize "characters" so grouchy readers don't judge them. I didn't need that. Some parts of this will definitely make you laugh at people in a good way and some might remind you why you don't like people.

  5. 5 out of 5

    Jade Fang

    Amazing, deep, made me cry. I love her insightful beautiful writing

  6. 4 out of 5

    R.

    Not enough analysis and not enough Marxism. Disappointing coming from Hochschild.

  7. 4 out of 5

    Frederike

    A great non-fiction book about how we are increasingly outsourcing basic household/life tasks, and with it are outsourcing the need to feel or show emotions. It gives an intimate look into how the nuclear family is changing our perception of caring for and about others. However, the biographical story-line that tries to connect the different parts of the book falls a little short.

  8. 5 out of 5

    Isa

    This book shows how people nowadays are getting more and more used to outsourcing even the most intimate tasks of their lives. The focus is on how society builds needs in everyday life, that are not seen as necessity but more as a way to get rid of those chores we don’t like talking care of. I totally recommend it

  9. 4 out of 5

    Brock

    "In the marketization of personal life, acts that were once intuitive or ordinary ... now require the help of paid experts." (p. 12) "In the marketization of personal life, acts that were once intuitive or ordinary ... now require the help of paid experts." (p. 12)

  10. 5 out of 5

    Julie Dawson

    Disclaimer: I received an ARC (Advanced review copy) of this book. Years ago in a sociology course, we discussed the mythology of convenience. In particular, the myth versus the reality of the washing machine. A convenience that was suppose to help reduce the amount of time required to do laundry that ended up increasing it. As a child, we didn't have washing and dryer in the home. So we had to go to the Laundromat once a week. That meant we had "school clothes" (which would get removed and hung Disclaimer: I received an ARC (Advanced review copy) of this book. Years ago in a sociology course, we discussed the mythology of convenience. In particular, the myth versus the reality of the washing machine. A convenience that was suppose to help reduce the amount of time required to do laundry that ended up increasing it. As a child, we didn't have washing and dryer in the home. So we had to go to the Laundromat once a week. That meant we had "school clothes" (which would get removed and hung up immediately upon getting home from school and "play clothes" which often got worn every day for a week unless they got so dirty mom couldn't stand to look at us anymore. And once a week, we'd go off to the Laundromat and spend a couple of hours doing laundry. When we finally got a washer and dryer, things slowly changed. Play clothes no longer got worn every day of the week, because it was so easy to do a load of laundry. School clothes didn't need to be hung up and worn a second time before getting washed. Over time, the once a week for two hours job of doing laundry because an every day task. From this perspective, I came into Alrie Russell Hochschild's The Outsourced Self. Hochschild provides an amazingly intimate look at the commercialization of our family lives. Interwoven with her own personal narrative about her quest to find a live-in care giver for her elderly aunt Elizabeth, Hochschild discusses everything from matchmaking services to wedding planners to professional nameologists that help you select baby names to marriage counselors, nannies, party planners, and "wantologists" who help you figure out what you really want. In all cases, one of the underlying themes is how our modern conveniences have made us more busy, not frazzled, and more in need of "professionals" to take care of tasks our parents, aunts, uncles, friends, and neighbors once did. As Hochschild navigates the often Byzantine realm of life coaches, rent-a-friend services, surrogate motherhood, and more, we bear witness to a society full of people who have lost the ability to trust their own instincts over the marketplace when it comes to finding a balance in life. Many of the individuals profiled in the book are otherwise successful career people who, despite their financial success, can't find the confidence to tackle family issues without the help of a consultant. The author has a wonderful ability to dig to the root of the matter. Particularly on the subject of elder care in America, I found myself crying several times as her interview subjects shared their personal experiences as both consumers and service providers. I found myself growing angry at the strange disconnect between the wealthy consumers and their undocumented nannies or the surrogate mothers in India who rented their wombs to rich couples in exchange for enough money to feed their own families. Every personal profile hits the raw nerves beneath the shiny marketplace of the self. The overall presentation is thoughtful and insightful. This isn't an exposé designed to rile people up or push an agenda. In many ways, this is the story of one woman trying to understand where the idea of family and community ends and the marketplace begins, and finding no clear answers.

  11. 5 out of 5

    Diane

    The premise of The Outsourced Self: Intimate Life in Market Times is that Americans are increasingly turning to the Free Market to meet intimate needs formerly met by friends and family. Unlike previous books of hers I have read, most notably The Time Bind: When Work Becomes Home and Home Becomes Work and The Second Shift, The Outsourced Self did not seem as "universal" or applicable to all classes of Americans. Hochschild weaves in her own personal narrative of her Aunt Elizabeth to give the bo The premise of The Outsourced Self: Intimate Life in Market Times is that Americans are increasingly turning to the Free Market to meet intimate needs formerly met by friends and family. Unlike previous books of hers I have read, most notably The Time Bind: When Work Becomes Home and Home Becomes Work and The Second Shift, The Outsourced Self did not seem as "universal" or applicable to all classes of Americans. Hochschild weaves in her own personal narrative of her Aunt Elizabeth to give the book a more personal and accessible tone and Point of View. She takes the narrative from dating to marriage to birth to middle age to death, and the book is well-structured and researched. However, some parts seem far-fetched to touch many or most Americans, i.e. surrogates in India birthing American infants and "rent-a-friend". Other issues such as Home health aides and caregivers and "car managers" for elderly parents seem timely and more relevant... or perhaps it just shows my age? Hochschild offers interesting thoughts about government and free market "creep" into personal intimate areas of American family life in throughout, but particularly in her concluding chapter.

  12. 5 out of 5

    Kelly

    Overall, a good look at how the market has shaped our personal lives. Through interviews and personal experiences, Hochschild shows how people have given over personal chores and responsibilities to the market. From online dating and wedding planning to familial skill evaluation and elder care, she argues that the market has rushed in to perform once communally-sourced duties in what they claim is a more efficient way. Hochschild relates several interviews with people who have been hired to take Overall, a good look at how the market has shaped our personal lives. Through interviews and personal experiences, Hochschild shows how people have given over personal chores and responsibilities to the market. From online dating and wedding planning to familial skill evaluation and elder care, she argues that the market has rushed in to perform once communally-sourced duties in what they claim is a more efficient way. Hochschild relates several interviews with people who have been hired to take on these outsourced responsibilities and shows how their jobs caring for others impacts their lives. Most of the outsourcers interviewed were wealthy, and it would have been interesting to see how and what those with lower incomes outsourced. DISCLAIMER: I received an Advanced Reader's Copy through FirstReads. This did not affect my review in any way.

  13. 5 out of 5

    Matthew Rothschild

    Hochschild's report on the changing dynamics of relationships in the internet-age is at times frightening and almost always thoughtful. An exploration of the idea "where does one draw the line?" without necessarily preaching an answer to that question, "The Outsourced Self" brings up a plethora of examples of the way in which modern Americans are adapting to having the internet as a constant companion. My issue with the book, which probably result from having lived my entire life with the intern Hochschild's report on the changing dynamics of relationships in the internet-age is at times frightening and almost always thoughtful. An exploration of the idea "where does one draw the line?" without necessarily preaching an answer to that question, "The Outsourced Self" brings up a plethora of examples of the way in which modern Americans are adapting to having the internet as a constant companion. My issue with the book, which probably result from having lived my entire life with the internet, is that Hochschild occasionally seems a bit "future-shocked." While only rarely happening, occasionally Hochschild's account seems to make the value judgment that a certain example is bad, or somehow worse than the personal alternative. But, like I said, these instances are few and far between, and the book is worth reading regardless.

  14. 4 out of 5

    Sara

    The story of Hochschild's search for a long-term care solution for her ailing elderly aunt frames this study of the marketing and consumerism that now afflicts our intimate lives. I've been a fan of Hochschild's works for some time, and found this to be a very readable, personable account of the various fields which have become consumer based, from dating and wedding planning, to child-rearing and party planning, elder care and friends-for-hire. She interviews people who have hired help, as well The story of Hochschild's search for a long-term care solution for her ailing elderly aunt frames this study of the marketing and consumerism that now afflicts our intimate lives. I've been a fan of Hochschild's works for some time, and found this to be a very readable, personable account of the various fields which have become consumer based, from dating and wedding planning, to child-rearing and party planning, elder care and friends-for-hire. She interviews people who have hired help, as well as those who offer themselves for hire, getting both sides of the story, not judging either party. It is telling that I found many of the services described perfectly normal, or at least, acceptable, which would not have been the case even just ten or fifteen years ago.

  15. 5 out of 5

    Janice Liedl

    Another great piece from Arlie Hochschild, whose writing in sociology I have always found to be rewarding reads. From "The Second Shift" to this examination of the trend to consult experts and hire outsiders to manage surprisingly intimate parts of peoples lives, Hochschild offers some nuanced analysis of modern living's pressures and prospects. Framed with the ongoing story of her own family's experiences of courtship, elder care and more, all linked to the story of her fiercely independent aunt Another great piece from Arlie Hochschild, whose writing in sociology I have always found to be rewarding reads. From "The Second Shift" to this examination of the trend to consult experts and hire outsiders to manage surprisingly intimate parts of peoples lives, Hochschild offers some nuanced analysis of modern living's pressures and prospects. Framed with the ongoing story of her own family's experiences of courtship, elder care and more, all linked to the story of her fiercely independent aunt who wants to live on her own as her body fails, this is a gripping yet easy read. Not at all academically remote, "The Outsourced Self" appeals to any modern reader who wants to get a handle on how we've come to a world of love coaches and more.

  16. 5 out of 5

    Sherri

    The Outsourced Self calls to attention the many ways that american family's have found a public market for private family issues. In this market you can pay to find love, have a child, and even hire help with potty training your children. This book shows how we have pulled away from doing what each person can do to help in the community has lead to the need for a public market to purchase needs you use to be able to find right next door. I found this book enlightning and enjoyable. I recieved th The Outsourced Self calls to attention the many ways that american family's have found a public market for private family issues. In this market you can pay to find love, have a child, and even hire help with potty training your children. This book shows how we have pulled away from doing what each person can do to help in the community has lead to the need for a public market to purchase needs you use to be able to find right next door. I found this book enlightning and enjoyable. I recieved this book as a giveaway contest winner.

  17. 5 out of 5

    Linda

    Ms. Hochschild presents the myriad ways that the market has encroached on family and community life. She makes her case through the personal stories of nannies, personal assistants, elder care managers and party planners, as well as those who employ them. It's a worthwhile book to read, and to consider how dramatically our way of living has changed in such a short period of time. The book does not wallow in nostalgia, but asks us to stop our frenzied lives long enough to look at where we are, an Ms. Hochschild presents the myriad ways that the market has encroached on family and community life. She makes her case through the personal stories of nannies, personal assistants, elder care managers and party planners, as well as those who employ them. It's a worthwhile book to read, and to consider how dramatically our way of living has changed in such a short period of time. The book does not wallow in nostalgia, but asks us to stop our frenzied lives long enough to look at where we are, and how we got here.

  18. 4 out of 5

    Sarah

    Her thesis is provocative -- that we're increasingly turning to the market for the kinds of intimate help that in the past we got from families and members of our communities. She didn't quite convince me that it's gone as far as she claims, though. She's right to raise the alarm. The heart of the book was the afterword where she makes her case for fighting for what's public (libraries, parks, public schools) against the encroaching market. I wish she'd made that the center of the book. Her thesis is provocative -- that we're increasingly turning to the market for the kinds of intimate help that in the past we got from families and members of our communities. She didn't quite convince me that it's gone as far as she claims, though. She's right to raise the alarm. The heart of the book was the afterword where she makes her case for fighting for what's public (libraries, parks, public schools) against the encroaching market. I wish she'd made that the center of the book.

  19. 4 out of 5

    H Wesselius

    The words alienation and commodification are not used in this book but they are implied. Hochschild outlines from birth to death the outsourcing of services once provided by ourselves, family and friends. By making these services into something (a commodity) to be bought and sold, we are no longer connected (alienated) to the community. A well organized simple book that easily makes its point with falling prey to nostalgia and emotion.

  20. 4 out of 5

    Leigh

    The premise of this book is that as a society we are paying others to do things that families and communities used to do for one another; and what is lost in the process, although the creation of these services - from wedding planning, to life coaching, to education, child and senior care, do provide employment. The writer has a nice style, although I think this could have been effectively presented in a long-form magazine article.

  21. 5 out of 5

    Ana

    I won this book as a first reads! The outsourced self:intimate life in market times was a wonderfully intriguing book. The author Arlie Russell Hochschild interviewed both sides of different sourced help in the search for her own Aunt Elizabeth.She goes through everyone from dating services to wantologists and everyone in between.

  22. 5 out of 5

    Megan

    This was an easy and interesting read but I wish there had been more sociological analysis. The introduction and conclusion were great, but I would have loved to see more commentary with each chapter. I definitely want to read more by this author since she has a clear and concise writing style and fascinating content. 3.5 stars.

  23. 4 out of 5

    Jonna Higgins-Freese

    I think perhaps I'm a bit jaded by my recent nonfiction reading, but this, too struck me as radically obvious: We pay other people to do a lot of things that didn't used to be part of the paid labor market: advise us on emotional matters, clean our houses, bear our children. Sometimes it creates some weirdness. Well, duh. I think perhaps I'm a bit jaded by my recent nonfiction reading, but this, too struck me as radically obvious: We pay other people to do a lot of things that didn't used to be part of the paid labor market: advise us on emotional matters, clean our houses, bear our children. Sometimes it creates some weirdness. Well, duh.

  24. 5 out of 5

    Michelle

    Arlie provides a historical perspective on the move from doing it yourself to hiring someone to do it for you. It is a thought provoking look at where we are at with hiring out for services. The examples and interviews are priceless! Thanks to Goodreads for providing me a copy to read and review.

  25. 4 out of 5

    Knows

    Anyone interested in sociology or American culture will find this book entertaining and at times almost unbelievable--our world has changed so much. It made me think about which changes were helpful, which not so helpful, and how to decide, questions couples profiled in the book also struggle with.

  26. 5 out of 5

    Luis Vargas fandiño

    Has a very interesting forward/intro, however the book repeats its major tenant over and over just dieffernr examples of the same concept it could easily have been published in half the content. Returned it early back to the library

  27. 5 out of 5

    Wendolyn

    The issues Arlie is talking about are challenges for society and not just individuals. Join our conversation and learn how our community can work together. Insight into how to manage home and work (Staffers talk)

  28. 4 out of 5

    Amy Turner

    I had forgotten to review this until I saw it on the Lilly Current Literature shelves, where I had to look at the last few chapters to see if I really finished it. An interesting topic, so why do I remember so little?

  29. 5 out of 5

    Anosh

    This book made me pause and take stock of my own outsourcing efforts. I decided to be more patient and to enjoy the process instead of delegating all my "work". However the author doesn't take sides. She presents a balanced and thought-provoking view on this issue. This book made me pause and take stock of my own outsourcing efforts. I decided to be more patient and to enjoy the process instead of delegating all my "work". However the author doesn't take sides. She presents a balanced and thought-provoking view on this issue.

  30. 4 out of 5

    Rebecca Tolley

    If jobs corresponded to social needs... We'd have plenty of jobs to go around. And more time as well. 226 If jobs corresponded to social needs... We'd have plenty of jobs to go around. And more time as well. 226

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